Key is stay off route 16, do some google or mapquest it is doable. You can get around other ways and avoid the carnage.
Re hockey, Ham arena has open hockey pretty regularly, check out their web site....should have adult leagues I would think...my competive hockey days are ancient history. HS hockey is a pretty big deal up there and UNH Wildcat mania reaches all the way from Durham.....www.hamarena.com
When it is 100% open I think Cranmore is fun. Good lights for night skiing (King Pine has good night skiing too)
Black is a little jewel when 100% open, but snowmaking is marginal so it usually isn't. Cranmore and Black are $$$ friendly.
Wildcat is fantastic, many like Attitash, I don't but I owe it another try - haven't skied it in a few years.
Red Parka Pub steak is super yum, lotsa other good eats too.
Shopping is everywhere if you are into that sorta thing.
You could find worse places to be a ski bum......you can usually scam up a decent job in season and ski cheap all day.......