Without trying to redirect the commentary of this thread, there may be a casual observation to be noticed.
Those who appear to be now not in a caring relationship with another person tend to place expectations and conditions on the traits/character/values etc. of the Significant Other to be. (sometimes referred to as "umm friend" i.e. "I would like you to meet Sally, my err.. ummm.. friend") The reality is often quite different. If we search for "love" in another, in order to find personal happiness, we will likely set ourselves up for rather large dissapointments. I have found "love" to be rather irrational, and not at all interested in my conditions or expectations.
With a busy family, if I even see my wife more than several ours a day it is an exception. My wife and I have agreed that in life there are many lists of priorities for each of us. Our relationship with each other is on a seperate list!
"All of my former wives had the same name "plantiff".