|Your point is a good one. But I tend to think that this is more about the elusiveness of perfection, coupled with the joy of effortless effort. The idea that you keep looking, trying, striving, searching, learning--with the "perfection" goal out there, but realizing that you'll never get there. And realizing that this process is magical and alluring.
In the language of my work, this moves back to holding polarity between BOTH results AND process. If you're too process oriented, you don't get anywhere. If you're too results oriented, you don't get anywhere (and all your friends think you're a jerk!)
For me, I've twisted it to the point where I'm ferocious for my results, but amused and pleased at my failures along the way.
This is very succinct advice and observation.
I've struggled with perfectionism my entire life. I'm also an extremely competitive person. Complicate that with being an extremely analytical type. I've tried relaxing my standards and laughing at myself more.
The more I delve into snowboard instruction, the more I appreciate a quote in the movie Shrek. Some things are like onions, the more you peel back the layers, the more you uncover. Yet, I still need more. My clinic leader for my Cert 2's had some sage advice for me, I have the technical terms and know what they mean, I now need to incorporate and peel back the layers.
I took up racing my snowboard two years ago without any coaching or help. I still haven't had any real coaching. I'm experimenting with technique, teaching myself, and using freestyle gear. I've been competing when I have time, given advice to others, gotten others interested, fought the urge to win at all costs, repetitively tried for the "perfect run", and the rituals I need to get my mind "in the zone". I've done it in sailboat racing, I'm trying to do it on the snowboard. It's easy to fall into the racer jerk zone if you are not careful.
Last week I was trying to decide which USASA series to compete in this season. Copper Series with serious competition or the Snowmass district where it looks like there would be minimal competition in my age bracket. I still don't know what finally made me choose Copper as my home series. I still may sneak out to Snowmass at the beginning of January.
I've come to appreciate the lyrics of some Grateful Dead tunes more. Learn to "Enjoy the ride" but still keep the perfectionism in the back of your mind.
But getting back to this statement:
|If you're too process oriented, you don't get anywhere. If you're too results oriented, you don't get anywhere
This is a fine line - you can work on teaching someone to turn but you can turn them off in the process.
Or.....maybe I'm just full of B.S.