Originally Posted by Alpinord
There's a fine line between trying to stand up for what you believe to be right, set a positive example for your kid and picking your battles and stepping back and let a$$holes continue to be a$$holes and ignoramouses continue being ignorant or simply inconsiderate.
A few years ago after finally getting the little guy and me to the lift line, which was waiting for the stopped lift, some dude decides it's time to light up a cigarette in the middle of the group of 40 or 50 people. You could feel the discomfort and no one wanted to 'rock the boat'. Sufficiently agitated and not wanting to 'let it go', because it was affecting the air around everyone (and thinking I'm protecting my little kid), I 'think' I said (probably with a bite), "Could you wait until you get on the lift to light up?" The a$$hole proceeded to jump my case and says something like it's a free country, etc. After finally getting to the top of the lift and getting my very young son going on the run, this stand up guy slides by and flips us off.
I know as soon as I opened my mouth in the lift line, my son felt intimidated and it was compounded at the top. I know this affected my kid at some level and I believe it had removed some of his 'desire' for skiing for a while. Subsequently, I certainly have thought of better responses that were more 'objective & positive' and less regretful, but it sure feels like you just ain't going to win these battles and need to keep your ego out of them. All you can hope is the next time, the individual(s) will do the right thing the next time......but don't hold your breath, it's inherent in our selfish society.
Wow, this reminds me of my college-age daughter. She was at Bridger behind some guy who was smoking in the lift line and asked him if she could possibly go on the chair ahead of him because she didn't want to inhale his smoke on the way up. She's a really "caring" type, unlike me, so I know she would have made the request politely (even if she has more GUTS than I would have had...I'd have tried not to inhale for the entire lift ride). He replies, "Get over it!" and refuses. Well, a ski patroller hears all of this and the tone of voice and expletives he actually used, and PULLS HIM OUT OF LINE! She starts giving him a sermon, then gets on the chair WITH HIM and is sermonizing the whole way up (ahead of my daughter, but the guy's no longer smoking). Then at the top, he apologizes to her basically because the patroller MADE HIM. The whole incident was really strange to me, but nice for her.
As for the OP, I'm just glad I ski at Big Mountain where stuff like this is never an issue. They organize the lines we have, when we have them and I just avoid Dec. 30 or whatever. Occasionally you get some big city a-hole but heck, so it makes you one chair later getting up the lift, so what.