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How To Get Spousal Approval For A Ski Trip

post #1 of 66
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I am running a trip to Aspen next January (X-Games Week) and already have 12 joining. One friend - Steve - is in, but another friend of both Steve and I - Phil - is " thinking how to do it" Below are several suggestions I offered.

Anyone else have others ?????

Phil -

Be upfront and honest with your bride. Tell her Steve has terminal cancer with 18-24 months max left. This is to be a goodby trip and you will NEVER get another chance. As the trip doesn't leave for 10 months, you will spread the payments so as not to impact family finances. Of course, when we return, a miracle has occured in that the high alitude exercise somehow resulted in a complete cure.

If terminal cancer doesn't fly, tell her Steve is going to have a sex change operation next year and this is your last chance for a "boys night out". When we return, Steve remembered his wife is straight and changed his mind.

Then send me a check for $225 to lock in your spot and tell her you've already paid and its not refundable.

Only some suggestions - feel free to use a more direct approach.

Charlie
post #2 of 66
Advertise on myspace for a guy that looks enough like to you to serve as a stand-in...or dump the broad and hook up with a girl from the ski school who's half your age...worked for me.
post #3 of 66

How to Get Spousal Approval for a Ski Trip/maximize ski days?

Great ideas! Does it work if it's the bride that wants to ski and the hubby is less driven (in spite of his natural abilities)?

Any other suggestions? I've thought of subliminal suggestions in his sleep: "You are dying to go skiing! You love to ski! You must ski! Your wife loves to ski! Your wife loves it when you ski with her and she will make sure you enjoy every moment pre and apres-ski!!"
post #4 of 66
Ski Spirit, if that works for you, let me know.

I started to take some long weekend getaways without him, and he finally decided it was time to participate.

Mr TC is still not an easy one to get to go on trips, but its better than it usta be.


Falcon_o
If your buddy really wants to do this trip then he needs to do it.
Its better to ask for forgiveness than permission.
post #5 of 66
Thread Starter 
PS - any Bears who don't need and/or can get approval and are interested in joining, PM me. Dates are 1/24-31/09.

Charlie
post #6 of 66
I had to give in order to get. In this case 6 days at Jackson Hole for me cost me 17 days in Europe for her.
post #7 of 66
Day of beauty, massage, spa...done deal.
post #8 of 66
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Originally Posted by Trekchick View Post
Its better to ask for forgiveness than permission.
Well, easier for sure. I don't know about better

My trips sans wife usually cost me many hours of heart to heart, 'state of the relationship' type conversations. Oh, and these conversations usually start just before the basketball game comes on TV:
post #9 of 66
The time tested formula is this:

For any non-spousal ski trip, 1.5 times what you are spending on the trip you spend on jewelery for her. Laugh if you want, but I guarantee she encourages future trips. Of course, it means that you have to budget 2.5 times the cost of any given trip. But it's fool proof.
post #10 of 66
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Originally Posted by bumpfreaq View Post
Well, easier for sure. I don't know about better

My trips sans wife usually cost me many hours of heart to heart, 'state of the relationship' type conversations. Oh, and these conversations usually start just before the basketball game comes on TV:
Like right now when the NCAA Final four is on CBS?

I really don't qualify in this conversation.
I spent a lot of years going to dirtbike races and being involved in my husband's activities, and only started to "do my own thing" the past few years. We never play the permission game with each other, but then neither of us takes advantage of the situation either.

BTW, Bump, shouldn't you be packing?
post #11 of 66
Honestly, I don't know how you people live like that...having to buy your partner jewelry or spa trips so you can go skiing????

I'm biting my tongue.
post #12 of 66
You guys really should travel on "business" more often
post #13 of 66
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Originally Posted by Mike Aswell View Post
The time tested formula is this:

For any non-spousal ski trip, 1.5 times what you are spending on the trip you spend on jewelery for her. Laugh if you want, but I guarantee she encourages future trips. Of course, it means that you have to budget 2.5 times the cost of any given trip. But it's fool proof.
This is without a doubt the best advice that I have read here in a long time!!!!!!

If anyone has interest in pursuing this route, please, please, pm me!

Another option that has worked for me in the past has been to let your S.O. plan a little trip at the same time with a few of her friends.....pick up the tab for hotel, spa and a small bit of frugal shopping...
post #14 of 66
Bribery, blackmail, indentured servitude ... it's all on the table when the pow hits
post #15 of 66
The only problem with jewelry and the 1.5x more expenediture is that if the whole issue comes down to spending too much money (my case), then your out. But if toasting money is not one of the gripes then hey, go for it.
post #16 of 66
OK..... That's it.

This limp wristed girlyboy jewelry bribing must end..... if we are to crush the quisling notion of "spousal permission" to go skiing then we need to produce ships of wood and MEN OF STEEL.

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Originally Posted by Harry_Morgan View Post
Honestly, I don't know how you people live like that...having to buy your partner jewelry or spa trips so you can go skiing????

I'm biting my tongue.
Harry goes first.... Thataboy set an example.


We need more ALPHA MALES like Harry on this forum.
post #17 of 66
This thread remeinds me of the scene from the "Blues Brothers" where Jake (John Belushi) is confronted in a tunnel by his assault rifle carrying ex (Carrie Fisher). He begs for his life on his knees, groveling and whining, gives her the look, then a long kiss as she swoons, and then drops her in the mud saying, "let's get out of here."
post #18 of 66
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Baja View Post
OK..... That's it.

This limp wristed girlyboy jewelry bribing must end..... if we are to crush the quisling notion of "spousal permission" to go skiing then we need to produce ships of wood and MEN OF STEEL.



Harry goes first.... Thataboy set an example.


We need more ALPHA MALES like Harry on this forum.
So the terminal cancer / sex change operation rap are off the table ??????
post #19 of 66
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Originally Posted by Baja View Post
OK..... That's it.

This limp wristed girlyboy jewelry bribing must end..... if we are to crush the quisling notion of "spousal permission" to go skiing then we need to produce ships of wood and MEN OF STEEL.



Harry goes first.... Thataboy set an example.


We need more ALPHA MALES like Harry on this forum.
Hey! What about me!?
Maybe I should teach a class to the women on the importance of ski trips!
I've never once given my husband permission for anything, and IF he had to bribe me in any way, it would be with some nice ski gear. Certainly not with some jewelry.....pffft!
Must be I'm not normal.
post #20 of 66
Grab pants by the waist.
Insert first leg.
Insert second leg.
Pull the waist in an upward motion until above the hips and buckle... (none of this "Gangsta S*$@").
Tell her you are going...

Come on PJ...GET A SET!!!

Steve
post #21 of 66
yeah - I was just playin. I've never had to "get permission" from my wife for skiing, since she knows it makes me happy - she's awesome that way. Then again I don't give her any either for her stuff.

BUT - there is one budget and when it comes to how we slice that up ... we have some discussions, negotiations etc. Unless you're without worries that way (don't professional athletes go broke all the time from mismanaging money) then you have to have discussions at least about the costs.
post #22 of 66
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Originally Posted by Trekchick View Post
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Maybe I should teach a class to the women on the importance of ski trips!
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Trek! ya need to teach a class to the women on the importance of JEWELRY!....

Better yet, I would be more than happy to teach that class!!!!!!
post #23 of 66
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Originally Posted by ragin' cajun' View Post
Trek! ya need to teach a class to the women on the importance of JEWELRY!....

Better yet, I would be more than happy to teach that class!!!!!!
Ski gear IS my jewelry!

See..............purrrrrty!
post #24 of 66
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Originally Posted by Trekchick View Post
Must be I'm not normal.
Signature line.... up for grabs
post #25 of 66
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Originally Posted by Trekchick View Post
Ski gear IS my jewelry!

See..............purrrrrty!

Good lookin' wardrobe there Trek!!!! This would even make Elizabeth Taylor envious!!!

and to think I was extravagant with Ms Cajun giving her just 1 pair of skis (k2 luvs)!!!!
post #26 of 66
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Originally Posted by ragin' cajun' View Post
Good lookin' wardrobe there Trek!!!! This would even make Elizabeth Taylor envious!!!

and to think I was extravagant with Ms Cajun giving her just 1 pair of skis (k2 luvs)!!!!
Ragin', surely you jest
Skis not shown.....
Blizzard Eos, Nordica Firefox, Elan Wave Spice, The Ski.


I was nice though, When I bought my Eos, I got Mr TC the Cronus, and when he broke his hand, I he got the K2PE that was on sale at the local store.

Aren't I nice

Bumpfreaq, You are giving me ideas
post #27 of 66
Falcon_o
Tell your buddy to buy his wife a pair of cheap skis(cheaper than jewelry), and tell her that he loves skiing so much that he wants her to enjoy it with him. Since she's already shown no interest in skiing, it will THEN be her fault that he HAS TO go without her to ski!
post #28 of 66
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Originally Posted by Trekchick View Post
Its better to ask for forgiveness than permission.
Yeah, my buddy's wife asked him when he told her this year's ski trip dates: "Are you asking me or are you telling me?" His response was "Yes"

Seriously, I find that the quid pro quo method works best. So, I just set up a trip for my wife and her friend to go somewhere. I use free tickets and free hotel rooms and send them somewhere they want to go. I've sent them to LA for a taping of the Ellen show and to Orlando to go to parks without kids. It's a win win because I stay home with the kids for the long weekend or however many days and we have a blast while mom is gone. Then, I get much less resistance when I put my ski days on the calendar.
post #29 of 66
Best option: Have a spouse who's as geeked about skiing as you are.

2nd best option: Have a spouse who at least likes skiing and invite him/her along.

3rd best option: Have a spouse who can amuse him/herself in ski country (XC, snowshoeing, birdwatching, whatever) and always invite him/her along.

4th best option: Have lots of money to bribe with the objects of his or her desire. (you should know what these are by now)

5th best option: Enjoy your life as a bachelor.

6th best option: Reduce the number of ski trips you take.
post #30 of 66
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Originally Posted by Timr1 View Post
Yeah, my buddy's wife asked him when he told her this year's ski trip dates: "Are you asking me or are you telling me?" His response was "Yes"

Seriously, I find that the quid pro quo method works best. So, I just set up a trip for my wife and her friend to go somewhere. I use free tickets and free hotel rooms and send them somewhere they want to go. I've sent them to LA for a taping of the Ellen show and to Orlando to go to parks without kids. It's a win win because I stay home with the kids for the long weekend or however many days and we have a blast while mom is gone. Then, I get much less resistance when I put my ski days on the calendar.
You have quality time with the kids while wife has a great get away with her friends; perfect formula for adding those points towards that guy ski trip. Add a little diamond heart pendant (from ya ol' buddy ragin') then you may get 2 solo ski trips!
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