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post #31 of 38
Here are my thoughts:

If it was a one night stand, then say "yes, but I really did enjoy this special time we had together."

If it is more than that, ie. you have deeper feelings for her that you have a strong desire to spend more time with her, then you have to take a risk...the risk is that you may get hurt but you are going to be honest with her.

You could respond, "No I don't if I really care for someone. I think I care about you more than I ever thought last night. I want to spend so more time with you to see if we have a future. [ Now here is the risk.] How do you feel about this ?" or " Do you want to find out f we do have a future together?"

The statement "I bet you do this all the time." I see this as a defense mechanism.

We al do understand that for women it's different than for guys... the intimacy of the "encounter." So if she thinks that she is nothing more than another notch on the bed post, and she thinks that is indeed the fact of the matter, she saves some selfrepsect in makeing that statement.

Her logic, either consciencely or subconsciencely is, "well I am not any worse than any of the others, therefore it's Ok. While I may have made a questionable choice of ever getting invoilved at such a shallow level, I am not the only one, and therefore it is a mistake, not a big mistake,and you have to move on, maybe a little sadder, but wiser. It's a way of rationalizing that she still has self worth, and has not cheapened herself because of a brief intimate relationship.

On the other hand, maybe she has her own bed post full of notches ?

Bottomline: if you care about someone, tell them, and be honest with them, even if it means getting hurt. One day when you meet the right person, she will love you all the more for being honest.It will pay off larger than you can now imagine.
post #32 of 38
<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by irul&ublo:
You start posting stuff like this and the next thing you know there will be a five page debate over in the technique section.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Speaking of technique, Oz, could you elaborate on the ... ummm, ski lesson.
post #33 of 38
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I know it was not all about me. I learnt that lesson many many, years ago. I respect the girl for her ability to choose what she wants and live for the moment.


Ah mate thats the problem. Maybe you really do like this girl and the next day she is up and away across the world to her "safe nest". Thats one of the hazards of the "holiday romance". Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Here is another question.

Why when talking about "holiday romance" do many people assume that the participants do it all the time and have "groupies"? Ya would not wish "groupies" on ya best friend.

Oz [img]smile.gif[/img]
post #34 of 38
I don't think we REALLY assume that! Just trying to play with your head, a bit! [img]tongue.gif[/img]

But in reality, despite years of feminism, I think most women have "man in uniform syndrome", although they would probably choose to deny it!

So whoever women PERCIEVE as having the power, that's who they will look for, if its a sexual encounter they are after.

BTW, I do NOT buy the feminazi crap trap about it being power envy! I think its something far more primal than that, but I better shut up before I get myself in trouble! [img]redface.gif[/img]
post #35 of 38
I don't think it's just ski instructors. (and it's definitely not just male ski instructors, I've thought highly of my female instructors)
Is it maybe the old thing that the Police sang about in "Don't stand so close to me"?

post #36 of 38

I met my hubby when he just got out of the navy. Oh did he look HOT!
post #37 of 38
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post #38 of 38
My last g/f was in the Aussie Navy, and their female uniform looked great!

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