|Originally posted by yuki:
Think of the time spent on the blues as an investment. If she spends a few hours in the lodge alone while you do your thing on the blacks, you are gonna give her the excuse she needs/wants to quit for good.
Is it too much to spend a few days with her while you rehab her on the blues and probably even some greens too?
I made this same mistake. I took off to teach a few lessons and entrusted my wife, making her "comeback", to my son. He did two runs with her then took off with his race pals. She retreated to the car and spent the afternoon there ...... crushed.
I was caved in to the pressure of the SS Director to "just do a few" to get him out of a jam and left the job to a kid of 12. Big mistake!
Screw the blacks, your wife will be your "ski buddy" when you are past 50 ....... but only if she is still skiing.
I read his post different. Sounds like she is already hanging at the mountain while Dad and Daughter ski, now she is thinking of getting back into it. Sounds like it won't be a problem that you take some time to ski blacks ( key here is "some" of the time ) while she either skis by herself, with others, or takes a lesson, that you should be able to figure out and compromise on.
But, more to the point of your post:
The best way to get her back into it, is what ever way she feels comfortable with. It may be best to let her take lessons for a while before you start offering your own "constructive criticisms" about her skiing. A womens clinic would be a good place to start. If she is ready to tackle her fears and and get back into the sport, she'll need a safe place to test the waters and allow herself to fail; without the added presure of loved ones expectations hanging around. A womens clinic is good, because other men (even stangers), might also add an element of competition that could distract from the issue at hand. Women support each other and are interested in win/win solutions more than men are. This could be a good environment for her to try it on again. Once she gets over her initial fear, if she was a good skier before, she'll get right back in the saddle.