Originally Posted by trekchick
When I asked one of my girlfriends why she wasn't meeting me anymore, her reply was, "Because when we started this year, we golfed about the same, but you got better faster than I did and I don't want to slow you down"
What's up with that?
Is this how women in golf usually think?
I just want to get out there, no matter the level of golfer I am with.
There was good blurb in one of the recent golf mags about the qualities required for good golf buddy. It's a tough list, male or female. So don't fret much about it being tough to find a good golf buddy.
CT's comment about getting handicap is right on for how to equalize the skill factor, with one exception. There are some women who play slightly better than my first year in the sport (my skill level at that time being self described as "worse than pathetic"). I believe that a handicap maxes out at 36. For someone averaging at least double bogey on every hole, a handicap is not an equalizer any more. Aside from that, a handicap works wonders at keeping things interesting. Betting games can also eliminate the "I'm not in your class" syndrome. My golf buddy and I routinely do "Nassau" bets (most # of holes won for the front, back and overall - with the handicap factored in). At $2 each for the 3 bets, the money is just noise. But with the handicap factored in, these bets are close most of the time and we take turns winning. It adds more interest to the round. With games like Wolf (to complicated to explain here), the skill in making assessing your playing partners skills and making betting choices can overcome absolutely unskillful play on your part. These kinds of games add a totally different dynamic to the game.
The "slow down" thing is another aspect. "Slow" players are universally reviled by better golfers. Less skilled, but knowledgable golfers are often self conscious about the unavoidable truth that hitting more shots per hole unavoidably takes more time. But most of the time that we play, there are groups in front of us. As long as you keep up with the group in front of you (i.e. no open holes between you) and there's no group behind you waiting, it really does not matter. As better golfers, we can often help
speed up play of our less skilled buddies (e.g. by watching their ball flight, giving up on excessive ball searches, efficient order of play, etc.). As long as we don't show distress at excessive numbers of strokes made by our buddies, we can help avoid them feeling self conscious about their relative inadequacies. It can be done. When the emphasis is on the "I like playing with you" social aspect of the game, the little matter that you take a few more strokes to get there is not a big deal. But the reaility that there are plenty of golfers who don't feel comfortable golfing with people out of their league (either above or below) makes this a legitimate golfing buddy check list item for most goflers.