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post #61 of 76
Tyrolean (my wife) is very happy that our sons football team lost in the 1st round of the playoffs. This means ski season starts this weekend. The kids are also happy about it.
post #62 of 76
Skiing has absolutely helped our marriage. But then, we both ski, so it's something that has always provided time for us to be together outdoors. Even during some rocky periods that most marriages go through, skiing (and other outdoor activities) provided a way to put aside any problems and just go do something fun, de-stress, laugh.

Now that we're past that period, skiing is something that we plan our winter lives around as a couple, and with our kids as a family. Most of our friends push their kids in team sports -- soccer, baseball, etc -- but I'm happier to see them do something they will enjoy for the rest of their lives.
post #63 of 76
My wife doesn't ski but ... she doesn't care if I do, particularly because I'm a complete basket case in the winter if I don't get out of the house and enjoy myself. I think I might have that SAD thing going on. Anyway, it hurts and helps in different ways. The scary thing is she leaves it up to me to self-regulate my ski addiction. So that means I have the responsibility if I overindulge! Argghh - I have to grow up and be responsible for my actions!!

I have a large extended family so there are opportunities to go away and do stuff together in the mountains (on a ski trip), not enough of course for me but it's something.

btw - that "no sex for a year" comment was pretty cold (where's Pat Benatar when you need her - "Stop using sex as a weapon..."), but obviously she was kidding if she skied down the same run later that day .
post #64 of 76
Helped… When we first met, my wife preferred skiing to winter whitewater rafting by quite a bit. It was something we both like to do in the winter.

After a couple years of only skiing a few days, it got me back into a skiing and going on vacations that did involve sleeping in the back of my truck or a tent. Now, I’m a fatter and lazier version of my former river rat self.

Anyways, we set things up this year so we will be skiing together all the time, just like it was before kids.
post #65 of 76
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Originally Posted by billyymc View Post
Skiing has absolutely helped our marriage. But then, we both ski, so it's something that has always provided time for us to be together outdoors. Even during some rocky periods that most marriages go through, skiing (and other outdoor activities) provided a way to put aside any problems and just go do something fun, de-stress, laugh.

Now that we're past that period, skiing is something that we plan our winter lives around as a couple, and with our kids as a family. Most of our friends push their kids in team sports -- soccer, baseball, etc -- but I'm happier to see them do something they will enjoy for the rest of their lives.
Couldn't agree more. Our best moments as a couple -- and as a family -- have been skiing!
post #66 of 76

doesn't hurt

Well lets see, we live in the middle of ski country but my wife doesn't ski (no real interest after trying it a couple of times). As long as I take an occasional day to go snowshoeing together she is fine. Like someone said, it can be a good way to "recharge" the relationship batteries..she can do her thing while I am on the hill,then we hang together the rest of the pm.

She went to Italy with her girlfriends on a culinary tour with her girlfriends, and I get to go snow cat skiing this winter,(her suggestion) so in our marriage we let each other pursue our respective passions (works for us)

she knows that I am a "skier" and does not try and reign me in/or change me..we worked through all of that when we were first dating (I was instructing back then)...it was something we had to work through-I will say that
post #67 of 76
Skiing has definitely not helped.

I am married to a woman who hates winter and anything to do with it. She hates being a widow in ski season and not having as much done around the house by me in winter. She hates me spending one dime on skiing and any gear I buy no matter how much of a discount I get is questioned. I does not help that she is primary bread winner.

The only thing that gets me a break is the fact that I offset some of the cost by being a ski instructor. She hates the fact that her boss thinks I am the only ski instructor that is worth his time.

If I go on ski vacations I must do so like I have the money of a college student. You are looking at $500 bucks for a ski trip to Colorado all expenses included for a week.
post #68 of 76
I'll have to let you guys know. I have been dating a great girl for about 9 months now and we are going on our first ski trip together in 10 days. I ski and she snowboards. We have a lot of fun golfing and playing softball together so I can't imagine our trip to SLC will be anything but positive.
post #69 of 76
I am married to a woman who skis albeit a fair weather skier but a skier non the less . translation she has NO problem withme either going with buddies or sometimes she'll go and either ski om a nice day or just be with me and knit or red in teh lodge on a bad day . Whemnever our kids and grandkids are here we all ski and we all take a week in feb togeter and ski in NH and the Berkshires

She is an XC skier and a tennis hound plays year around and golfs with me too

I hit the jackpot when i married here 43 years ago ! this woman is awesome, bright , looks like a million bucks and is one terrific soft and understanding mate . She's my age 64 but looks like a woman 25 years younger < Damn i love her so!!
post #70 of 76
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I am married to a woman who skis albeit a fair weather skier but a skier non the less . translation she has NO problem withme either going with buddies or sometimes she'll go and either ski om a nice day or just be with me and knit or red in teh lodge on a bad day . Whemnever our kids and grandkids are here we all ski and we all take a week in feb togeter and ski in NH and the Berkshires

She is an XC skier and a tennis hound plays year around and golfs with me too

I hit the jackpot when i married here 43 years ago ! this woman is awesome, bright , looks like a million bucks and is one terrific soft and understanding mate . She's my age 64 but looks like a woman 25 years younger < Damn i love her so!!
There has been a mistake. This post belongs in the "what are you drinking right now" thread. Just kidding. Congrats on the beautiful choice you made long ago and the wisdom to continue to appreciate her as time went by.
post #71 of 76
Given that I am no longer married and given that my ex hasn't skied since (4 years ago) we split ways I am tempted to put the two things together and say that ski didn't help. But then, to say that one of the reason we split was my love for mountains and the snow sport would be too much of a stretch.
Of course skiing and the mountains was taking up much of my thoughts and vacation resources, but so was the job, me being the breadwinner (unbelivable now, for me to say this) Anyhow when things go bad, then every thing is a pretext...
post #72 of 76
that's a good way to put it. IMO a difference of opinion on something like skiing should be something you could work through. I guess I'm kind of amazed that people take relationships so lightly these days. Sheesh - don't things like family, having kids or not etc have more to do with it?!
post #73 of 76
Sometimes my wife loves to ski. Someties she just enjoys it. Sometimes she doesn't feel like it. I'm the same way.
post #74 of 76
It started out hurting but soon turned to us both falling in love with skiing.

The first year we were married we went to look at a ski area and hubby said "ooh, that's looks like fun" and I said "ooh that looks cold and slippery".

The next year a friend took us to a local hill. My athletic husband took to it right away. They put me in a lesson where everyone else had already been on skis at least once. My skis were too long, my boots hurt, and I spent most of the time on the ground ("I've fallen and I can't get up!") That year he went a couple of more times with some male friends and really enjoyed it.

Having been married only a couple of years, I was determined not to become a ski widow. We bought some inexpensive but appropriate equipment and it really helped to be on the same skis and boots all the time. It was especially important that I finally found boots that fit me! I took a couple of lessons and started to enjoy it.

By the following winter I was begging him to go up to Vermont for opening day at Killington! We did and it was awful, but I was obviously hooked.

Now we ski every day we can. We are both totally addicted and consider summer as just a waiting period to get in shape for next winter. This year we are planning to go to South America in July, so our summer will be fairly short!

Last year I broke my leg in November, had it operated on in early December, and skied again Jan. 10. Then broke my ankle in a ski collision in late January, and was back for good by March 1st. Hopefully no broken body parts this year!

Our record for a year is 137 days, and we both hope to break that this year. So yes, I would say it has helped our marriage. It gives us plenty of time in the winter to do what we love together, and motivation in the summer to remain active in other sports. We even ride a tandem bicycle!
post #75 of 76
Skiing has definitely added a lot of fun to our family. We are only recreational skiers (living in Ohio) but what a great family trip for all ages. It is something my teenage son enjoys and my toddler is learning to enjoy. I see many years of great skiing trips ahead (but lucky for us my husband and I both enjoy it equally).
post #76 of 76
When I met my now wife 11 years ago she said, "I dont know what you are going to do in the winter, I ski!" I replied that I had better try it and did (at age 58) and loved it and the rest is, as they say, history.
We are the best ski buddies and share the same love of steeps, trees, and powder and find that most of our friends are quite happy to stay en piste which we aren't.

We are off for a 7 week road trip tomorrow starting in Tahoe, then Utah, Jackson Hole and then Colorado and as far as I'm concerned, if we ski with others thats good, but if it's just the two of us then that's fine by me. Has skiing enriched our marriage? You betcha life it has!
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