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post #1 of 36
Thread Starter 
I need advice on convincing my husband to join me on a cat skiing adventure (Powdercats) at Steamboat. I'm planning to go on the expert cat in March and would really love to have him with me to enjoy the experience. We are both expert telemark skiiers with plenty of powder experience but he would rather venture off on a backcountry trip in the Steamboat area with his friends instead. He is completely supporting my desire to enjoy a powder cat day but I'll have to go solo. I just want to be spoiled one day with no skinning up, aquiring tons of vertical and having someone chase me around with a bucket of snickers and providing a yummy gormet lunch. It's going to be my birthday that day. What can I say to convince my guy to share this experience with me?
post #2 of 36
heck if he won't join you, i will. how could someone turn down the opportunity to cat ski in freshys, and to top it off its your birthday. what time do we meet? go and have fun enjoy the day
post #3 of 36
I took my father in law cat skiing on his birthday when we were in Montana, he appreciated it.

We will be at Steamboat in March...what week will you be there?
post #4 of 36
Maybe he could get up early in the morning and skin up to the place where the cat will be dropping you off for the first run, then ski with you and ride the cat the rest of the day. Sort of a compromise.

Or tell him "If you don't, Phil will."
post #5 of 36
First and foremost - Welcome to EpicSki!

I'm going to give it to you pretty straight. Although, I am a bit afraid of over generalizing and being taken out of context.

History:
My husband taught me to ski when I was dating him. Although he had no idea I would get so hooked, and he always has prefered snowmobiling to skiing. He is my favorite ski partner, but when there is snomobiling to be had,.........you get the idea:

My dedication:
I have been screwed out of many ski trips because of my husbands lack of desire to adventure out. So I planned a trip to an ESA Stowe, inviting him, but he didn't want to go. I had a blast! He would have put a damper on my experience, not because he's not a good guy but because his heart wasn't in it.

Simple solution:
Go Have fun, with or without him! Your enthusiasm may encourage him to go next time. He has fun on his journey and you have fun on yours.

In general:
I think women give up the possibility of having an adventure without the participation of their SO. I think men pursue thier adventures no matter what. Times are changing.
Have a great birthday! Hope he goes! If he doesn't, embrace the experience and post a trip report!

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Originally Posted by telerod15 View Post
Or tell him "If you don't, Phil will."
For the record, Phil, Cgeib, Fox, Rob, Stache, CharlieP...........and many more skied with me at Stowe!
See.....Phil will!
post #6 of 36
Wow, that's really disappointing to you I'm sure, especially since it is also your birthday.

If my wife wanted to do something like that I would be overjoyed.

I agree with Trek Chick in a way, but it might be better if you explained why it would mean a lot to you to share your birthday with him in that way. He might come around and hey its not like he won't enjoy himself.
post #7 of 36
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Originally Posted by Scarlet Bullet View Post
What can I say to convince my guy to share this experience with me?
At this point you probably shouldn't say anything. If your birthday and skiing alone aren't enough, the best he'll do is grudgingly come along and that's the last thing you want.
post #8 of 36
wow ! where were you when I needed somebody ,only kidding. I've been out with the steamboat powdercat crew several times( by myself) and its a great time. I was out with them on my 50th and got 13 runs in that day (shorter runs ).The only person that will be missing out will be your husband!They have a cabin up there and do a nice lunch! My wife did a womens clinic at the same time with a ex olympian (forgot who), and she had a blast a full day with breakfast and lunch (lots of women) great instruction all levels.you might want to check that out to . enjoy and happy birthday!!!!!!!!!!
post #9 of 36
Thread Starter 
Thanks everyone for your positive responses. I'm going to do it. I'm going to book the cat and seal the deal...solo. We will be at Steamboat March 9-16.

You are right Trekchick, times are changing. I need to enjoy this adventure regardless of his decision to be with me.

I did consider the womens clinic powder cat but I'm afraid the pace of a womens clinic (which includes all abilities) will be too slow for me since I have become greedy in wanting to optimize the number of powder runs available in a day.

I will definitely post a trip report regarding the experience!
post #10 of 36
What trekchick said. Don't sit around waiting, you will resent it.
post #11 of 36
I think he should "suffer" through a day of cat skiing with you. It's pretty hard for any of us to feel sorry for him to make a sacrifice like that. Sheeez!
post #12 of 36
Heck, I long ago found out that my desire to ski the BC via skining was a solo activity, not favored by my wife. Every once in a while i can get her to skin w/ me, but I have pretty much given up on tours with her. She likes to be pampered and get lift assisted skiing in. I always take to the time to go with her, if I can, because it's more important to just be with her than to argue over how we shoudl get up the mountain. It's your BDay, do what YOU want, and make him go.

Powdr
post #13 of 36
I wish I had these kinds of problems! About the only rational objection he could have is cost! If cost isn't an issue, he should easily be able to "sacrafice" a day to do this!

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Originally Posted by trekchick View Post
I think women give up the possibility of having an adventure without the participation of their SO. I think men pursue thier adventures no matter what. Times are changing.
Yes, this is often the case but I do know a few women who don't let this happen! (I'm a guy.) Go on the trip and show the other participants how to ski!
post #14 of 36
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Originally Posted by trekchick View Post
I think women give up the possibility of having an adventure without the participation of their SO. I think men pursue thier adventures no matter what. Times are changing.
Sigh.......what a bunch of amateurs. : If I hooked you ladies up with my wife for tips, your husbands would hate me forever, ie:

".....oh, by the way 'sweetie', I'm going to Antiqua with the girls......you won't have a problem with that, now will you?"

Like many, I like the outdoors, snow and skiing as much as possible. My SO likes pampering and comfort. It works out great where she goes on her trips with her friends and I get a hall pass for mine. We hook up on stuff in between.

A cat trip on a powder day is the ultimate and I had a great time skiing without her with my wife's (and mine) best friends and spouses. She did not miss anything as she simply wouldn't have appreciated it for what it was. On that day, with snow deeper than the length of my ski pole and arm, skinning would have been impossible.

As I'm sure you know, motorized BC access is contrary to a BC mentally for many and I could see where if your husband's preference is BC, it might be tough to enjoy fully without some guilt.

Enjoy the trip.
post #15 of 36
Hey Scarlett, you are IT. You're right, he's wrong, sometime you shouldn't have to earn every turn. And honestly, the people you'll hang with, you'll never forget your day with them. Skiing is social, that means new faces sometimes.

GS3
post #16 of 36
I'm sorry to hear doing a snowcat trip isn't your husband's cup of tea, but like the others, I think you should go solo. You'll meet new friends and it will turn out to be a wonderful birthday treat to yourself. :

Just make plans for a special birthday dinner for two, and that will make up for it. Sometimes you have to have fun alone. But imagine the stories you can share over dinner, since you will both have different adventures to talk about!

This doesn't have to be an awful turn of events, if you handle it right...

I can't wait to hear about your trip! :

Thatsagirl
post #17 of 36

Cat Skiing Alone

BIG Ditto's on Alpinord and Trekchik's comments. Additional, my wife and I have been happily married for 35 yrs, she ski's but isn't addicted like me. I go cat skiing without her, she went to China without me and we are both very happy to see each other after the separation. Sort of makes us appreciate each other more. GO Cat Skiing and have a great time. All bets are that you'll have a great time.
post #18 of 36
Thread Starter 
I just read this thread to my hubby who had some animated reactions to various responses, heh heh heh. But alas, he is still not bending on the decision to go back country verses a powder cat day with me. I like Thatsagirl's viewpoint in that we can share our separate days experiences over dinner. Just imagining an elegant dinner where my hubby *somehow* ends up with spaghetti noodles dripping down his face after I spend my birthday alone.
post #19 of 36
Okay Scarlett Bullet add me on to the list of guys who offered to ski with you .. On a more serious note I think TAG might have the prefect idea.. Anyway have fun with the cat trip..
post #20 of 36
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Originally Posted by Alpinord View Post
Sigh.......what a bunch of amateurs. : If I hooked you ladies up with my wife for tips, your husbands would hate me forever, ie:

".....oh, by the way 'sweetie', I'm going to Antiqua with the girls......you won't have a problem with that, now will you?"
Sounds like my wife. I go west at least once a year, sometimes with my wife, sometimes with the guys. One year I got conned really well. A good friend of mine at a party in August asked me to go on a trip to Whistler in December. These were guys whom I love to ski and party with, but not in Whistler in December. So, not wanting to go, I dragged him over to my wife and asked her, knowing she'd say no. She said yes!!! 2 days later she told me since I'm going on a boys trip, she's going on a girls trip to Utah in March. I found out she had that trip with her girlfriends planned in April. We both had a good time....
Scarlet Bullet, go on your own and enjoy....
post #21 of 36
If he won't spend your birthday day with you...I see no reason why you should spend your birthday night with him. I hope he enjoys his 'first tracks"..on the couch.
post #22 of 36
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Originally Posted by Philpug View Post
If he won't spend your birthday day with you...I see no reason why you should spend your birthday night with him. I hope he enjoys his 'first tracks"..on the couch.
ROFLMAO
This from the man who's married to a women who has the patience of the saints.

SB, go cat skiing then when you spend that nice birthday dinner with your husband, show him what a woman is like after she's been skiing all day, when she's got her endorphins up, and then Rock his world!
He'll know he should go next time!
post #23 of 36
Thread Starter 
Well, here's the update...My husband has submissed and is now booked on the cat with me! I think reading your posts here has convinced him to come along with me. Yay! Thanks to everyone here for posting back. I promise to post a trip report with pics.

Scarlet
post #24 of 36

Scarlet Bullet

Are you getting weak? I recall the days of yoyoing Bohemia, the lifts must be softening you up, Eh! I would join you in the CAT but $350 is a little rich to battle the foggy goggle syndrom. I hope TM would rather Skin so I have some company, since you managed to pull your old man out from under my grip. Happy B-day

One of the guys Scarlets Husband was supposed to BC ski with.
post #25 of 36
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Originally Posted by Pin-head-1037 View Post
Are you getting weak? I recall the days of yoyoing Bohemia, the lifts must be softening you up, Eh! I would join you in the CAT but $350 is a little rich to battle the foggy goggle syndrom. I hope TM would rather Skin so I have some company, since you managed to pull your old man out from under my grip. Happy B-day

One of the guys Scarlets Husband was supposed to BC ski with.
Pin-head, I guess Scarlet must be prettier than you!

Scarlet, glad to hear your husband will be sharing your birthday snowcat skiing with you. Now you can share stories over dinner about which one of you poached the other's powder line...

Thatsagirl
post #26 of 36
Gee I thought we might have to drag DR Phile into this to save this marriage. Glad to hear it is working out Havea great Birthday. Your hubby is a lucky SOB
post #27 of 36
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Originally Posted by Scarlet Bullet View Post
Well, here's the update...My husband has submissed and is now booked on the cat with me! I think reading your posts here has convinced him to come along with me. Yay! Thanks to everyone here for posting back. I promise to post a trip report with pics.

Scarlet
That's great news! Happy birthday!

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Originally Posted by Pin-head-1037 View Post
Are you getting weak? I recall the days of yoyoing Bohemia, the lifts must be softening you up, Eh! I would join you in the CAT but $350 is a little rich to battle the foggy goggle syndrom. I hope TM would rather Skin so I have some company, since you managed to pull your old man out from under my grip. Happy B-day

One of the guys Scarlets Husband was supposed to BC ski with.
Welcome to EpicSki Pin Head!
Now, lets think about this one for a teensy weensy minute.
Scarlett is a woman who has and adventurous skiing side, while other men find it difficult to get their wives out on the slopes at all.
Scarlett is having a Birthday, and is making a request that is far less painful than making him shop for an ordinairy gift.
I'm guessing Scarlett has some leverage that you just can't offer.

PinHead, I hope you get a chance to BC ski with your gang soon. Something tells me you'll have your day in the sun!
post #28 of 36
As Shakespeare said, alls well that ends well. He's a lucky man and it's your birthday - have a great time!
post #29 of 36
Enjoy the trip. I will be with Steamboat Powdercats on the 14th of this month.
post #30 of 36
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Originally Posted by trekchick View Post
That's great news! Happy birthday!


Welcome to EpicSki Pin Head!
Now, lets think about this one for a teensy weensy minute.
Scarlett is a woman who has and adventurous skiing side, while other men find it difficult to get their wives out on the slopes at all.
Scarlett is having a Birthday, and is making a request that is far less painful than making him shop for an ordinairy gift.
I'm guessing Scarlett has some leverage that you just can't offer.

PinHead, I hope you get a chance to BC ski with your gang soon. Something tells me you'll have your day in the sun!
Thanks for the welcome, I used to make plenty of BC trips with Scarlett and her hubby, a few years ago before moving. So when I ask her if she is getting weak there is alot of inside history, 5 years of not skiing together, and of course a little good natured ribbing going on at the same time.

Scarlett, I hope you're ready to go 'jukin'
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