Originally Posted by airshowguy
...And, in this instance, you're just plain wrong.
If you re-read your sentence, from above, I could NOT disagree more stringently:
- There is NO eventuality that the world is violent.
- There is NO eventualy that you have to accept the "reality" of a violent world.
- There is NO eventuality that the world is a messy place, unless you (and tens-of-millions of others) keep saying it is.
- There is NO reason VailDad did this other than his inability to control his temper and take the right path (of non-violence and tending to his daughter).
- And...there is NO reason a civil society has to act the way VailDad did or more importantly, that other members of that society should "understand" his actions.
Simply put, there is no reason and I mean NONE, that we should approve, agree with or even "understand" what VD did.
Thanks, and I respect your optimism, but I disagree with you just as stringently.
Since the beginning of recorded history, human nature has been pretty much the same. I don't think we are any different than all those folks Euripides and Aristophanes wrote about. And I don't think we'll be any different, ever.
I agree with that.
|He should have completely taken care of his daughter; exclusively. There was no reason to go after the boarder because that young man didn't matter. Now, VD's daughter has to live with the horrible vision of her Dad watching her get plowed over, live with the vision of the man she loves and admires getting wiggy on some guy and live with the horrible conclusion that she had something to do with all of that. 8-year old girls get screwed up for life, for far less than that. Can you imagine how scared, terrified and horified she must have been, first knowing that she's "bleeding to death" (my words, not hers and maybe not even the situation but 8 year olds are either OK, or they're bleeding to death) and then watching her Dad's anger boil over into violence? You think she's going to live with that for the rest of her life - count on it!?!
I think that's a little dramatic. She might just as easily think, "Gee, my dad would do anything to protect me!" My own daughter is 8, and she can see both sides of a situation. Kids -- maybe more than anyone!, -- understand how hard it is to control your first impulses.
He just needs to explain to his daughter that he messed up and he'll have to be punished, but it was because he is her dad and he loves her and he was scared and angry. If parents don't pretend that everything they do is perfect, kids shouldn't have issues with that. No harm, no foul.
It's when people get all hypocritical and pretend that it's possible to be perfect, well, that's when kids get disillusioned.
So, how far afield can this discussion get??