Originally Posted by BigE
Actually, her best stuff is when she stops skiing, and her hand goes up to her face. She's totally balanced at that point. So she CAN do it!
I saw that, she's done with her performance for the camera/husband, and skis away totally relaxed. That relaxed, balanced stance will become part of her skiing on blue and black trails with time.
She should develop balance and edging skills on easy terrain, flat areas, runouts, etc. Places where she relaxes and quits trying so hard. Playing with moving CM fore/aft, flexing and extending knees and ankles while straight running on flat will help her get centered and less stiff. Rolling the skis from edge to edge on very flat grade without any effort to change direction will give a feeling for riding the edge of the ski. Skiing on one ski if she can do it relaxed, (just lift a ski and put it right back down at first, then skiing on one ski for a little longer). Once she's comforable with that, skating on flats. Of course she can't skate until she can balance on one ski.
Don't present these as drills, if possible, just some ways to have fun on flat areas where the alternative is to just stand and straight run. Even standing and straight running if done in a relaxed stance will help actually. Introduce balancing, edging tasks gradually, never asking for something that is going to be very difficult. Staying loose is the most important thing. She is tense, trying too hard.
These flat terrain drills (oops, I meant fun and games) can be part of runs that also have steeper (blue) parts so she doesn't get bored. Plan a route that has some flat parts interspersed. Avoid the steep terrain where she is currently fighting so hard just to make a turn.
She is happy with the way she skis, so I don't really see a problem. You know she will enjoy it more if she improves, but there maybe little you can do to motivate her to strive for higher skill level. That's frustrating, sure, but as long as she is having fun, that's the most important part. Skills will develop. I bet she skis better than most people will a similar amout of skiing experience.
I know you want a spouse that can ski with you in the bumps, trees, steep and deep. She already has a spouse that can ski with her anywhere she wants to go. So her improvement is more important to you than to her. Be patient, get her on snow a lot, mileage, not too much coaching. Don't try to make her follow your tracks, but ski ahead and model some turns that will give her an image of what she should be doing.