Greedy, greedy, greedy...
It's rare you get it all - especially if you have a mix of strong skiers and novices.
Jay, Stowe, Smuggs are far enough north that if cold air is coming down from Canada you've got a good chance for nice freshies. Stowe and Smuggs give you some alternatives for "family time" and are well rounded as far as terrain is concerned.
Speaking of north and family time - Tremblant. Some really good food in and around Tremblant. Only once have I hit great snow conditions - cold is often a given. If you're driving, this is a looong haul. For similar ambiance and less of a drive choose Stratton.
Sunday River tends to recover from Mother Nature's curve balls faster than other areas. You'll have to compromise on truly challenging terrain and there is no "night life". Killington is a close second in being able to recover from poor conditions and if all else fails there's always a party somewhere.
The hard core Loafer's are going to say you're crazy for not thinking about the only above treeline skiing in NE. Not one of my favorite mountains, but many love it.
You've been to Hunter and Iceface, so you know what you get there. Can be great ... or tough as nails.
There are many other options in NE, but those are my suggestions. Eastern weather is challenging - just have fun wherever you end up.