You'll just have to start posting your proposed route a week in advance so a "proactive" approach can be developed.
I just have a real "dumb" and inane approach to travel "out-o'-state". This is a very hard concept to follow so it make take some thought. After I was pulled over in CT back in the 60's .... my dad explained that many states (read most), will ticket the outlanders. They never show up in court to contest the tickets.
That being said .... I take a very simple approach to crossing the lines.
#1.. Leave a little early and don't be in a hurry.
#2 .. Anticipate being a target and "back er' down" ... if the locals are doing 77 in a 65 .... keep it at about 68 or so.
#3 .. Be polite .. even if it's tough. Stop (if the lights go on), in a the safest spot for mutual safety.
#4 .. If you can afford that Lexus SUV, the $60 ain't the end of the world, keep it in perspective.
If those "points" on the DL are adding up and that is what is pissing you off, there's always Mexico or Canada .... You can share a room with Oldschool, move in and run him fer' mayor and you can live happily in your little anarchist enclave.