So what if we consider why we have ski poles to begin with?
Skiing started as a form of transportation to which ski poles assisted in the locomotion. Somewhere wayback someone got enough thrill out of a downhill section of a route to hike up and do it again just for the fun of it. On the way up the poles remained a necessary tool, but on the way down they were pretty much along for the ride, simply needed to be carried along to be avaliable for the next trip up.
I suspect there was some benificial waving of around of the poles discovered as the skiers made inevitable balance recoveries. And then someone appointed themselves both expert and critic of exactly how and when and where in a turn the pole should be waved.
So here we are with poles that initially only assisted downhill skiers with balance that are being designed to be as light as possible with as low a swing weight as possible and effectivly become less and less functional in assisting balance.
So where does this lead? Having coached for decades I have a lot of miles skiing without poles at all. I find that the better I get with my feet the less I need to be concerned what I do with my poles. Sure you can use them for timing and all kinds of stuff, but I'd ask what (other than for locomotion) can't you do in skiing without them? Do we only still have poles because our mind's eye image of the sport has been conditioned to expect to see them there and doing all the 'right' moves?
If you want to learn to use your poles as enhancer to, and not crutches for, your skiing, sneak off where no one will see you and ski without poles until you learn to ski better (with your feet) than you do now with poles, then bring them back into the mix and find out what real functions poles can offer.