Originally Posted by james
I read that and think he was backpedaling. It may be that he just embellished the story in the beginning and erroneously stated the reluctace of the two. I really agree with Lonnie and the others that are questioning him. I see that his story changes. The feelings and thoughts in the first post seem at odds with his later posts. In between these posts are people questioning his own actions and thinking. Pointing to his liability. The line I highlighted says it all for me.
Agree to disagree, which is fine. Just didn't know if you'd seen the second one. You're being pretty measured in expressing your opinions, which is great by me.
I just didn't like the level of vitriol in some of the previous posts. Recrimination perhaps out of line with the event and what we really know about it. And then when the OP attempts to explain a bit further, he's accused by a bunch of folks of prevarication or just plain changing his story. What happened to hearing out (and really listening to) somebody's story before making judgements?
Most of us don't do the best job of explaining ourselves online, and some better (or worse) than others. I used to tutor and teach writing workshops, and I know firsthand that writing is not best medium for most
people. I've heard countless people tell one story verbally (the one they mean and believe) and then, unintentionally, tell a totally different story in writing (or shade and tone said story very differently) without realizing that the readers are not understanding what was actually meant.
Personally I'd hate to beat somebody up and assume the worst on the basis of a written post somewhere online, unless they flat out, unequivocably say "I hate _______s" or "I told my friend he should try the park, even though he's a level 4 and then I laughed when he fell on his head." JMO, but I am finding a few Bears pretty quick to judge very
harshly and negatively on the basis of personal bias and very subjective readings of posts, which makes me a bit uncomfortable.
As I say, though, you are going about this in a pretty measured fashion, which makes disagreement a bit more palatable.
And I don't disagree with the *what was the guy thinking?* camp when it comes to the jumper. Good lord, what does it take to make some grown men turn off the testosterone and accept their own limitations?