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post #91 of 114
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Originally Posted by onyxjl
A lot of husbands golf and a lot of wives don't.
True. But there are a few things to consider about that particular sport: 1) Most golfers do "day trips" that don't involve being gone long periods of time. 2) Most golfers get up bright and early and are home when the sun is still shining so couples can do things together afterward (partly because more daylight hours in summer, partly because they're off the course in early afternoon, and partly because they didn't have to drive three hours one-way to get the course). 3) A day of golfing does not "exhaust" you to the point that you are incapable of doing anything else other than sit in a hot tub, crash on the couch in front of the fireplace and drink schnapps and cocoa afterwards. 4) Those who take golf vacations are going to a warm climate, where the wife is usually perfectly happy to go, and she has plenty of "nice weather" things to do until hubby comes back from the course for "couple time."

Thatsagirl
post #92 of 114
Quote:
Originally Posted by onyxjl
A lot of husbands golf and a lot of wives don't.
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Originally Posted by Thatsagirl
True. But there are a few things to consider about that particular sport: 1) Most golfers do "day trips" that don't involve being gone long periods of time. 2) Most golfers get up bright and early and are home when the sun is still shining so couples can do things together afterward (partly because more daylight hours in summer, partly because they're off the course in early afternoon, and partly because they didn't have to drive three hours one-way to get the course). 3) A day of golfing does not "exhaust" you to the point that you are incapable of doing anything else other than sit in a hot tub, crash on the couch in front of the fireplace and drink schnapps and cocoa afterwards. 4) Those who take golf vacations are going to a warm climate, where the wife is usually perfectly happy to go, and she has plenty of "nice weather" things to do until hubby comes back from the course for "couple time."
I am a 4 handicap golfer (In skiing terms that's about equivelent to a level 9) and I
am more passionate about golf than skiing. Since I have a wife who doesn't golf or ski I feel I may be qualified to comment.

1. Typical golf Saturday is get up at 6:30, drive to the course, practice for 1/2 hour, play a 4 hour round, head to the grill, have a coke and/or lunch and settle up. Then drive home. That's about 6 hours at the club and1/2 hour driving each way. The wife considers that a long period of time and it has been a point of contention

2. I usually try to do something with the family afterwards, but... (see 3) What worked best was for them to come out to the club and go swimming and I would jump in the pool with the kids after the round.

3. Yes I have been exhausted after a round of golf. Especially if its over 90 degrees and high humidity. I usually walk unless it's an event where carts are provided, so sometimes the heat and humidity takes its toll.

Like skiing, to play golf well takes time, effort and commitment. Something a person who is not passionate about these things usually does not understand. Fortunately, in my case, my wife sings barbershop competitively. Since that also is a time consuming activity, we have learned to manage our time to so we both can pursue our activities and still make sure the kids get to do everything they want to do also. Thank God the kids like skiing.

When we went to Steamboat last Spring on a very last minute deal, we ended up driving (Yeah, we spent a week in Kansas one day.) since airfares on short notice were too expensive. We got in at midnight after driving for 22 straight hours. the next day I got up early and went out on the hill - the kids wanted to wait a day. I did pretty well until about 2:00, when I just flat gave out. I got back to the condo with the family and, after dinner, I was out for the count. I got a lot of grief about that. I probably should have waited a day to recover after the drive with no sleep, but it was snowing and I didn't want to miss it.
post #93 of 114
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Originally Posted by onyxjl
A lot of husbands golf and a lot of wives don't.
To me this is not a very good analogy, almost anywhere you happen to live---there is a golf course within 1/2 hours drive and almost never requires an overnight stay to play that regular weekend 18. And I know plenty of folks---men and women---that play at 5:30 or 6 am too get their 9 hole fix before work---every day the course is open.

You can get lots of great golf in without a "train wreck" if you do it right. You don't have that available in skiing UNLESS you hike for your turns---and live really close to snow.

Now the golf week/weekend, from the northeast to Arizona in February might be comparable.

Most really passionate skiers will try to live close to the snow---but in many cases (take Iskitoofast4you's case) travel makes the two incomparable, in my opinion.
post #94 of 114
I think it all depends on who that person your dating is. I got my wife into skiing after we got married and she loves it now. I guess I've just been lucky.
post #95 of 114
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Originally Posted by SrMike
1. Typical golf Saturday is get up at 6:30, drive to the course, practice for 1/2 hour, play a 4 hour round, head to the grill, have a coke and/or lunch and settle up. Then drive home. That's about 6 hours at the club and1/2 hour driving each way. The wife considers that a long period of time and it has been a point of contention.
I bet that a vast majority of the people on Epic are more than an hour from a ski area. And skiing for 4 hours is better than not skiing at all. Be at the lifts when they open at 8:00, ski till 12, home by 1:00 or 2:00. No different than golf.

I think there are a lot of similarities between golf and skiing. I ain't no 4 handicap (unless you're just counting the first 2 holes), but I played golf every week one summer, and it annoyed the wife just as much as going skiing (it takes 5 hours to play a round on the public courses here). One advantage to golf, is that it's easy to play a round after a half day of work during the week.
post #96 of 114
iSkitwofast4U,


Is your sister available??

post #97 of 114
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Originally Posted by course9x
iSkitwofast4U,


Is your sister available??

I had to really search to see the reason for this query; but hell was it ever worth the search! That sister is on the money (even if I'm really what she calls a Robot!)!!!

Good job man!
post #98 of 114

she skis and golfs

My wife skis and golfs.

She is the worlds fastest golfer....gets up to the ball, hits it...chases it and hits it again....if she is hitting first(not usually) she always forgets I haven't hit yet....she makes me nuts! But it is good practice for my focus and concentration. She is the ultimate distraction.....especially when she says..."just hit the damn thing already"

She is the worlds slowest skier. Not really slow, she is a good smooth probably about a lvl 6 skier....but she is more interested in the view. Makes me crazy!! Who cares about the view!!!!! Makes my 21 yr old son even more crazy!!! But she goes, complains about every aspect of planning it and getting up to the mountains and mostly the fact that we are spending way too much money...but once she gets on the hill she loves it! It isn't hard to go skiing with her....I just blast half the run and wait for her....sometimes while I catch my breath, I even look at the view:

My best days ever have been when she goes on the hill with me...either alone(rarely, she is a mom after all) or with the whole family. We went to Killington for our 10th wedding anniversary. I remember every minute of every run....that was 15 yrs ago.....I don't think we have ski'd alone since

We are very lucky people tho, what a wonderful family sport....I love skiing.

We hope to go again just after Christmas...my wife, daughter, 2 boys and me.....

Sometimes it is much more than just the skiing.

I bought my wife some new Volkl Gammas....she is actually looking forward to trying em out. They will be her first shaped ski.



My wife took tennis lessons as a kid for like 10 years and hits with perfect form...she won't play anymore tho...has 2 Yonex top of the line sticks sitting in her closet....she doesn't like it when my topspin forehand hits her in the noggin.

2 outta 3 sports ain't bad I guess....

All the kids golf too.....

we are a brave bunch
post #99 of 114
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Originally Posted by hrstrat57
My wife skis and golfs.

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All the kids golf too.....

we are a brave bunch
I hope you have lots of disposable income. From my experience, you're going to need it.
post #100 of 114
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Originally Posted by SrMike
I hope you have lots of disposable income. From my experience, you're going to need it.
Sure do!

I get it and immediately dispose of it.

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post #101 of 114
Hi all!! I'm new - have lurked for a little bit, but decided to post on this thread as I've found it interesting....

My ex-husband *made* me go skiing....basically browbeat me into it - but I loved it from the first & took lessons & got better. I now enjoy skiing very much & love the beauty of the mountains. My current husband does not ski one bit & has no desire to learn.

This also is the first year I've gotten into a ski house - by myself. So this winter should prove to be interesting.

I think it depends on the people involved as to whether or not a relationship works or not - regardless of the activity. While it's important to have some similar interests - I think it's also important to maintain separate interests to maintain one's identity in a relationship. My husband is VERY supportive of my interests.
post #102 of 114
Welcome to Epic jenscats5!

It looks like we've pulled another lurker out of the closet! A wife with a husband that WON'T ski, living in a ski house, with strange men ... this is what it takes to get people to sign up? I smell another reality show coming.
post #103 of 114
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Originally Posted by therusty
Welcome to Epic jenscats5!

It looks like we've pulled another lurker out of the closet! A wife with a husband that WON'T ski, living in a ski house, with strange men ... this is what it takes to get people to sign up? I smell another reality show coming.
Now how do you know there's men in the ski house??

Thanks for the welcome!
post #104 of 114
Ok - I added that part about the strange men. Let's just say the odds were with me and it makes the reality show ratings higher.
post #105 of 114

respect

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Originally Posted by hercules
My wife doesn't ski. I do. This year it is looking as if she is going to try it for the first time. Honestly, skiing has never been an issue between the two of us. She knows I like to ski and respects that, just as I respect her interests. I do hope she likes skiing when I finally get her to try it, because we really do enjoy being with each other(BTW, married and dating time combined is over 15 years.)...she's not just my wife but my best friend. I guess we're lucky because we know of couples that can't stand to be around each other and wonder why they got married in the first place. So, it can be done, but respect, understanding and communication is the key.
Right on Hercules, I stopped reading the thread here (time restrictions) so maybe this is repitition ... while courting learn to respect each others' interests and overlap as much as possible. At least one try in the new areas that your love interest likes and then ... hope. Honesty and trust has a lot to do with the other aspects. The perfect match doesn't exist!!! Been looking too long, I've become philosophical. G'luck.
post #106 of 114
My mom is an instructor. My dad refuses to ski, but hangs out at our house near the mountain. It works. He is happy doing other things. My mom has two children who are ski instructors to hang out with on the mountain or go on ski trips with.

My question is what happens when you meet a girl who is better than you are? Who can rip and is comfortable on steeps, bumps and in difficult conditions.
post #107 of 114
Stryder,
In my expirence, a successful relationship comprises of two main ideas, Liking each other, and respecting each other. I ski, because my son skis. My wife doesn't and never will. My 3 daughters do not ski. The girls do other things, while the boys ski. My wife supports my other interests too, cycling and i am a race promoter. I also cherish family time. We have family movie night 3 times/month, camp, haul firewood, cook. My wife likes to scrapbook and stamp, i don't. She has friends over , and i am usually the cook, busboy and server that day for everyone. My wife and i had been together for 17.5 years, married for 16. I asked her to marry me after 3 weeks.

Be honest, don't make ulimatums and do things she likes to do too, it can work. The same goes for her too.
post #108 of 114
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Originally Posted by Nobody
I remember one of the first conversations:"...are you free today?"
My, half jokingly, answer :" I'm completely free until the snow falls, then..."
You mean:

Non ci รจ sesso i giorni della polvere.


Mark's ex wife did not ski. I hated it when I first started. I was also computer illiterate, and could not understand why people would want to post messages to strangers on forums. I said that I would never, ever leave New York City. Then I got hooked on skiing. The rest is history.

Be careful what you wish for!
post #109 of 114
Jess,
You say "nice to have met you but eventually I will get tired of having my assed kicked and will have to break up with you. So I will save you the heartbreak now before I waste your time and mine."
Go find yourself some pretty little thing that likes to sip hot chocolate and wait for you in the lodge in fur-lined boots.

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Originally Posted by jess

My question is what happens when you meet a girl who is better than you are? Who can rip and is comfortable on steeps, bumps and in difficult conditions.
post #110 of 114
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Originally Posted by justski
Jess,
You say "nice to have met you but eventually I will get tired of having my assed kicked and will have to break up with you. So I will save you the heartbreak now before I waste your time and mine."
Go find yourself some pretty little thing that likes to sip hot chocolate and wait for you in the lodge in fur-lined boots.
Then I guess it's a good thing, we don't know each other so you don't have to endure me kicking your ass.
post #111 of 114
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Originally Posted by jess
Then I guess it's a good thing, we don't know each other so you don't have to endure me kicking your ass.
Ouch!



But, he's being honest, he wants a snow bunny. Everyone will be happy that way!

Thatsagirl
post #112 of 114
I know and that sounds like it would work well for him. Justski, I wish you the best of luck.

I just couldn't resist
post #113 of 114
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Originally Posted by dwoof2
My GF is a never ever. Will find out next weekend... :


Dave
So what happened?
post #114 of 114
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Originally Posted by jess
I know and that sounds like it would work well for him. Justski, I wish you the best of luck.

I just couldn't resist
I don't think you read my post correctly. DUH
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