As you can see, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
I know for me, it never did. The best example of past relationships: I am a ski writer and when I was in my early 30s, I had a non-skiing boyfriend who said to me as I was getting ready to leave for a weekend of skiing, "It's skiing, or me." Well, DUH! I went skiing.
: Yah, I'm going to not only give up my passion, but my life's work for him. Obviously, my love of skiing was never a secret, but he always said it wouldn't bother him. After the second ski season was underway, it clearly did.
: By the way, he is a chef, so I always had dinner waiting for me, and I guess I'm lucky he didn't put anything "funny" in it.
I met my husband SKIING seven years ago at my home mountain. He is a volunteer patroller. Skiing is central to our lives (as are other outdoor sports). We ski on Christmas Day (right after dropping off his kids at their Mom's house--interestingly this is the first year we have no kids living with us and it will make for a shorter trip to the mountain
). We ski every weekend. We take lots of ski trips every year. We spend too much money on gear and apparel and gadgets because we egg each other on about how necessary those items are to be "happy on the mountain or in the water."
Since meeting each other, we've expanded our love of skiing to include extensive off-piste skiing, snowcat skiing and backcountry touring. My ski-loving family first freaks out, then is totally impressed, with the levels to which I've taken my skiing. So, needless to say, I'm happy I waited to meet him.
On the other hand, my older brother dated a woman who didn't ski, wasn't even particularly athletic, but after a few lessons, she fell in love with the sport, quickly caught up in ability and they've been married now for 20 years.
Both kids ski too. But note: If she hadn't found a passion for it, they probably wouldn't have gotten married. I don't think she would have been understanding at all about him being gone skiing all the time, and spending so much money on the sport.
It really depends on what kind of person YOU are too. As some folks here show, if you can stand separate vacations and passions, and be understanding about each other's preferences, then it can work. But personally, I can't imagine being married to someone who doesn't share my love of skiing and the outdoors. It wouldn't work for ME. It's too much of who I am. And my husband, who was once married to a woman who didn't ski and didn't like the outdoors, says being married to someone who shares his passions puts the relationship on a whole new, and very satisfying, level.