some random thoughts, I'll skip my lengthy tale for the most part, the thread is about you not me...
-lose the 2,3,4 irons if you haven't already...if you can't swing 85mph (and I respectfully doubt you can) they can't be hit consistently. Get a 7 wood. If you swing below 70MPH go graphite A flex(sr) or L flex(ladies)
-you are a world class ski instructor. Most athletic people can learn to hit a golf ball solidly....takes an understanding of technique( and physics) and a tremendous amount of focused practice. You can do it for certain. Buy Gary Mccords golf for dummies dvd, sounds crazy but it is truly excellent. Additional video material can follow and is just as available as it is for skiing. Golf and Golf Digest magazines are good resources too, but the instruction there is unfocused...
-Most amatuer women should copy Lorena Ochoa's swing (loop) this will increase your clubhead speed because your swing radius will immediately increase in depth and length and the clubhead always comes from inside the line producing a straight shot or (as is in my case now) a soft draw. I had to change my swing path to a loop due to lack of flexiblity brought on by aging(50) my swing speed had dropped below 80MPH
:.....I used Nick Price, Sergio Garcia, Dana Quigley and Jim Furyk as examples....all swing with a loop....if you slice, top or push the ball or can't consistently hit the sweet spot you should too.....
-once you start to hit solid shots(and you will) then sign on with a pro to teach you how to manage the course and score....lpga or pga pro, doesn't matter...all are trained to teach either sex....remember there are very few part time teaching golf professionals...there commitment is usually life long and full time. I would liken a pga professional to be equal to a psia examiner or at minimum level 3 instructor. If you find one you click with...go for it...I am hunting one down now....I am killing the ball again
but I always pushed the ball before I rebuilt my swing....need to learn how to apply my new shot shape to the golf course, and work a bit more on optimal ball position in my stance to make my ball striking more consistent. That's where the pro comes in for me. Like you I am a seasoned athletic coach...(tennis, baseball, basketball, softball and of course psia) I did the grunt work on my own...you should too...
-that's how I see it.
Lotsa good golfers here on the forums....I am sure you will get plenty of good advice.......enjoy the quest
I hope you find some of my comments useful....it is a great ride.
BTW I am teaching my 12 yr old daughter to play now....she hits driver 170. Last Sunday she hit 4 inches from pin on approach...(missed the putt of course) for a near ace on 155 yd par 3. My 21 yr old son plays d3 tennis in lieu of d3 golf...but he is a solid 5 handicap...hits driver regularly over 290.....and we all can play together...what a great game. Just like skiing, the family that does either together stays together. My wife plays too, but she won't listen to me much
....on the links or the slopes.