Here's my "steps". Please note I am not a ski instructor and have no training as such, so if anyone disagrees with me, consider the source;chances are many others on this board can give better advice (though nobody has yet).
It is not fun; it is hard work; it does allow you to acquire some feeling for edge control and allows you to get skiing. As you should know, it's tips in knees in, heels push out. The steeper the angles, both at the one at front of the v and the one between the bottom of a ski and the slope, the greater the affect. The right ski makes you want to go left and vise versa. Balancing your weight on both will stop you more or less straight; putting almost all your weight on one ski will cause you to turn the other way. Move on to the next stage as soon as you can stop and turn, and vary the magnitude of your forces. If you can walk and chew gum at the same time I can't see why you would spend more than 15 minutes on this.
2. Go skiing with skis parallel, and use wedges to turn and slow down. Move on when comfy with this.
3. Somewhere around here is the stem chirstie (not sure exactly where it's been a long time). This is the step I think many people now figure leaves bad habits that have to be unlearned. But, what the heck; it worked for me. While doing a wedge turn all of your weight is on the outside (of the turn) ski anyway and the inside ski is doing nothing, so just pick it up and place it beside the outside ski. Once you have that mastered, make your turns by sliding that outside ski into its wedge position and bringing the other ski alongside right away, forgetting about the wedge. When you can do this move on.
4. (probably where you are now) Concentrating on the outside ski, you slide your skis into position to turn you, and naturally you balance by having your cm inside of the turn, but you're still using mostly your muscles to put your skis into position to turn you, but you notice that once you are in a turn your skis are doing all the work. That's because they are on edge. The edge of a ski is shaped a bit like an hour-glass. In order for the entire edge to be in good contact with the snow, the ski must be bent into a curve. The radius of this curve must be smaller the greater the angle of the ski bottoms with the snow. Now your ready for step 5.
5. Think of your skis as little steering wheels. When viewed from the back they look like this to go straight _ _ , and like this / / to turn left, and like \ \ this to turn right.
Now to start your turns, just tip the skis. Like turning a steering wheel in a car, it takes a lot less effort to tip a ski than to push it around.
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Practice a quick unweighting and spin 90 degrees dig your edges in and come to a stop like an ice scater.
On a steep hill, but not in someones way, put your skis 90 degrees to the hill and see how varying the angle your ski bottoms make with the slope allows you to control how fast you slip down the hill.
6. Now that your sking by tipping your skis, get a feel for what directing more force to various parts of your skis edges (inside front of outside ski only, both ski edges, tails of ski edges, etc. ) has on your turns.
Have fun skiing!