I recommend getting a few catalogs. First, get the Tognar Toolworks catalog- www.tognar.com.
It's pretty full of descent advice, and lots of products.www.race-werks.com
is an excellent resource for the higher dollar tools, IMHO. They have a nice printed catalog, and carry the SVST stuff.
The Race Place is the home of "the Beast" tuning tools. Innovative, not as flashy, works good. Also some advice. www.the-raceplace.com.
Also has a nice catalog.
And of course Reliable Racing. Good stuff, not really noteworthy, but get the catalog.
As for tools, I like the Toko/Swix/WorldCup vise. I think it comes in yellow/red/and blue, depending who's package it's in, but they all retail for about $100, and are the same.
The Beast side-edge file guide with the metal base plate is really nice. I like the Toko and SVST base-edge bevel guides- precise, and nearly impossible to over-tune with them, as long as the base is flat (a must for any guide, really).
I have the DMT diamonds for polishing, but I like the SVST stone sets. My wallet isn't deep enough yet. I hear the secret-sauce stuff is good.
Finally, wax is mostly dependent on how fast you really need to be. The cheapy hydrocarbon waxes are probably fine, unless you are measuring tenths. I can't see any reason why anyone not competing would bother with high-flouro waxes, and really even low-flouro, allthough they will most certainly make a difference. How big a rush are you in?
I know TOKO and maybe swix make "shop" quantities of the cheap hydro waxes. I use the toko, and it's fine for most uses. You may not see those offered in the catalogs, so ask. It's way cheaper. I bought $20 worth of each temperature range (3) last year in October, and I've got more than 75% of each left after waxing my wife's and my skis atleast weekly. Only complaint is that it's softer than advertised (by color code), and dosen't last very long against machine-made.