Originally Posted by Bonni
"Suck up, Mr. CandyAss.....quit yer whining and learn to whitewater in whatever medium you choose and your little MALE EMOTIONAL stuff will take care of itself." -Me, pretending to be you
How ridiculous you sound! How your story changes from annoyance with the fears of others to tolerance of your own fears.
Exposed before your peers.....tear down the wall.
Your posts continue to constitute nothing more than juvenile little attempts to make personal attacks, which carry no validity and contribute nothing to the current topic. They do nothing more than serve as immature, self indulgent dribble that clutter the threads on this site and force readers to wade through a bunch of garbage to get to the meat of the topics.
While you may consider my posts as sometimes aggressive and arrogant, they have always been subject based and offer a perspective on the topic being discussed. Your little gems do neither, they offer nothing of substance, they don't even attempt, they're pathetic. It's time to grow up little girl and quit littering these threads with your childish tirades.
Much to what I'm sure will be your great disappointment; my posts show no inconsistency as you profess. I never suggested that fear does not, or should not, exist. I only pointed out that the manner in which you folks were attempting to alleviate that fear was highly ineffective in comparison to skill development. If I want to raise my fear threshold on the water the first thing I would do would be work on my strokes and learning to read and negotiate all types of water; not visit my shrink or sing my way to tranquility.
Some goes on skis. By focusing directly on improving skills things that once were perceived as challenging and intimidating suddenly seem easy and fun. We all have our own tolerance for fear and individual perceptions of how close to our ability threshold we feel comfortable performing. We can only have minor influence over how close to our ability threshold we find comfort, but through quality training we can have significant influence on over the ability thresholds themselves, there by raising the level at which we ski in emotional comfort without ever having to push the perceived risk envelope.
That's the most effective way to eliminate fear. You can try all the psychological ploys you want, but if the skills don't improve the real risk levels do not change and you'll only be affecting the fear you perceive by tricking yourself into accepting higher levels of risk and higher exposure to injury. And when it comes right down to it, it probably won’t work anyway because a functional brain knows better. It won’t go for such tricks and put the body in undue jeopardy.
Now Bonny, I know that all the above presentation on fear management will not even penetrate that angry little adolescent skull of yours for consideration, but do at least use it as a model for how to formulate comments that directly address a topic, and substitute it for the personal attack crusade you've been on lately. And, if you don't have anything of substance to offer to the discussion then do us all a favor and just sit back and keep your mouth shut.