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Would you stay or go?

post #1 of 23
Thread Starter 
I was skiing with my 22 yr old daughter earlier this week in Vail. Sunday was a warm day that started with hard, crusty snow and transitioned to soft later in the day. It started snowing on Monday, and we had a powder day on Tuesday. Now here comes the dilemma...we're scheduled to fly out on Wednesday. But the forecast shows it's going to snow every day for the rest of the week. I'm sure I can't return any more this season, so it will be 2016/2017 before I can ski again. My daughter really needs to get back to GA, but I could stay.

Would you fly back home with your daughter, or stay and ski even if it meant your daughter had to travel back home, alone?
post #2 of 23

She's 22 -- old enough to be independent.  You are....well, older and have fewer opportunities left in the long run.  
I'd stay and consider it both a gift to me and a gift of independence to her.  

 

....but I'm a selfish old goat. :o

post #3 of 23
If your roles were reversed, what would you want her to do? If I were you, I'd ponder that on the chair lift Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, ....
post #4 of 23
If she were 12, then I might have some qualms about it.

But 22? I can't even see why it's a question.
post #5 of 23

At 22 she won't be talking to you on the plane anyway--whe'll have her headphones on watching a movie on her tablet or phone.

post #6 of 23
Stay.
post #7 of 23
At 22 mine was working in the desert and camping alone for weeks on end far from civilization. I'm sure she could have gotten on a plane by herself.
post #8 of 23
Stay.
post #9 of 23

At 22 years of age I was already 3 years past my first wartime experience.

 

Stay!

post #10 of 23
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Originally Posted by Mcpowell View Post

I was skiing with my 22 yr old daughter earlier this week in Vail. Sunday was a warm day that started with hard, crusty snow and transitioned to soft later in the day. It started snowing on Monday, and we had a powder day on Tuesday. Now here comes the dilemma...we're scheduled to fly out on Wednesday. But the forecast shows it's going to snow every day for the rest of the week. I'm sure I can't return any more this season, so it will be 2016/2017 before I can ski again. My daughter really needs to get back to GA, but I could stay.

Would you fly back home with your daughter, or stay and ski even if it meant your daughter had to travel back home, alone?


As an older parent in the southeast who went out west a week before my young teen daughter could join me for a spring break trip a few years ago, the answer is obvious . . . stay for the storm.  My daughter did fine flying out by herself to meet up with me.  She considered it a great adventure.  I'm sure your daughter will understand.

post #11 of 23

Plus she has a much better chance of meeting a guy on the plane without you in the picture.

post #12 of 23
Stay and ski it
If she loves you she will understand
Or
Tell her to stay too
post #13 of 23

Since your daughter skis she should certainly understand.  If not, she's spoiled:o  I was in my 40s before I got to ski out west, so she's doing ok.

 

Plus she has a much better chance of meeting a guy on the plane without you in the picture.

 

This is true also.

post #14 of 23
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Originally Posted by oldgoat View Post

At 22 she won't be talking to you on the plane anyway--whe'll have her headphones on watching a movie on her tablet or phone.
THAT is the real point of the dilema.

Let's suppose she still enjoys talking to you instead of ignoring you. You know that kind of father-daughter time probably will become less and less as she will soon have her own life and out of yours. Then you have a dilema which is more precious, powder day? Or last chance to spend more time with your daughter?

But you've already spend several days together this trip. She may indeed want to get away from you by then. Insisting to hang around her might mean you missing the powder and her resenting you for not letting her have her independence.
post #15 of 23
Just ask her.
post #16 of 23
Good advice from everyone (hey it is a ski blog after all) but...there will be more powder days, how many more chances to travel with your daughter? Whatever you should decide, no regrets, enjoy your decision
post #17 of 23

I don't understand this post.  It was started late Friday/early Saturday by the OP.  Were you talking about last week?  If so, this already happened.  But you are asking it as something to happen.  Tell me what I'm missing here? :dunno

post #18 of 23
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Originally Posted by bamaman View Post

I don't understand this post.  It was started late Friday/early Saturday by the OP.  Were you talking about last week?  If so, this already happened.  But you are asking it as something to happen.  Tell me what I'm missing here? th_dunno-1%5B1%5D.gif

It was posted Saturday, referring to happenings earlier in the week, but I'm assuming the Wednesday is the coming Wednesday, March 23, for the day of departure.

Either that or he's trying to justify whatever decision he actually made..
post #19 of 23
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Originally Posted by bamaman View Post
 

I don't understand this post.  It was started late Friday/early Saturday by the OP.  Were you talking about last week?  If so, this already happened.  But you are asking it as something to happen.  Tell me what I'm missing here? :dunno

 

 

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Originally Posted by sibhusky View Post


It was posted Saturday, referring to happenings earlier in the week, but I'm assuming the Wednesday is the coming Wednesday, March 23, for the day of departure.

Either that or he's trying to justify whatever decision he actually made..

 

I thought maybe that also.  But he left it off with snowing on Tuesday and didn't mention the rest of the week.  And it didn't/isn't snowing there from last Friday thru this Tuesday.  But your explanation must be right.  It doesn't take much to confuse me ;) .  Hopefully, he'll clarify.

 

But my answer is STAY.  I've done it and my kids around the same age definitely understood.  If you've spent time with her already skiing, a 4 hour plane ride back alone should be nothing.

post #20 of 23
Thread Starter 
OP here.

Sorry I was a little confusing in my question. This whole scenario is in the past tense. My daughter and I flew home on Wednesday. We had briefly discussed both of us staying for another day, but it just wasn't going to work well for her. And so we both came home, when there was really nice snow in the forecast.

Once home, I started thinking of a third scenario...that of sending her home and me staying. Of course it was too late, but I know it could have worked if I had only thought of it.

Well, live and learn. The next time we go, I'll have a contingency plan in place where One or more of us can stay a little longer if we want.

By the way, we had a blast for 3 days, and will remember the good times forever. I feel very blessed my daughter wanted to make the trip with me. She would have been fine on the plane, and getting herself home.

Most of the responses in this thread have been right on par with my thinking. I do wonder if a "parenting" or some sort of "family" forum would answer the same?
post #21 of 23

nooooo! don't go there.   I'm not a parent, but it's widely known that parenting forums are the worst.   If you thought our ramblings on helmets and climate change and onewasatch or skinny skis and fat skis in powder were inane, go to parenting forums where there are no end of perfect parents to tell you you are doing it wrong. 

post #22 of 23

My wife and I were much better parents until we had our son.  

post #23 of 23
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Originally Posted by raytseng View Post
 

nooooo! don't go there.   I'm not a parent, but it's widely known that parenting forums are the worst.   If you thought our ramblings on helmets and climate change and onewasatch or skinny skis and fat skis in powder were inane, go to parenting forums where there are no end of perfect parents to tell you you are doing it wrong. 

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