Well, it was Jan 1994 and my wife was 3 months pregnant then of our first kid.
The gynaecologist adviced us against downhill skiing, not for the activity per se, but for the risk of being hit by somebody and for the risks of falling.
Since the vacation had been booked a long time we decided to go anyway, and she took nordic skiing instead of dh (a classic example of:"Hey he said no dh skiing, didn't emntioned cross country").
She had a wonderful week skiing the nordic trails up and down the valley. The set up was that I was using the lifts to reach a rendezvous point, she was coming in with the nordic skis, we ate toghether and then on our way bak we went.
When we came back, the gynaecologist was a bit perplexed and told us that backcountry skiing could have been even more dangerous!
Anyway, as said, nothing bad happened, we enjoyed the week.
Later on, I read of a former Italian WC racer team member who skied until her last day of pregnancy (the name of the girl is Maria Rosa Quario, don't know if it rings a bell)
As always it all comes down to how athletic one person is,how well the person feels, how confident in her capacities (Know thy limits!) how willingly to do a potentially dangerous thing (not only for her, but for her to come child too) she is. And lastly, how she's going to carry out that activity (does she intend to huck cliffs???).
I'd consult a gynaecologist before doing anything.
I think I already wrote all this somewhere here, but couldn't find it.
P.S. bottom line, I never told my wife "hy why don't you want to ski? Just stasy in your comfort zone..."
That simple sentence would have been read as an attempt from me to force her out of her comfort zone.
Since your friend already decided for a "no", discussing with her about it, could lead to the same conclusion, no matter how you'll present the argument.
and once someone is not totally at ease, well, the damage is done.
This is my humble experience.
[ January 02, 2004, 04:24 AM: Message edited by: Matteo ]