TCC, to answer your question when you started the thread, I would go to Jackson. As it turns out, I am going to the Jackson Gathering, and as Dano suggested, might not be a bad choice for you, especially if you are looking to ski with people. However, be aware of your apparent tendency to become defensive, and to criticize others for offering their opinion. It gets kind of old, and few will actually want to ski with you.
if you have to ask others so much for their opinion of where you should go, you are not ready to go there. If indecisiveness is really your problem, then it has nothing to do with skiing or finding the "right" place to go.
This is a matter of internal locus of control (the belief that the individual is completely responsible for the outcome) and external locus of control (others' actions, the conditions, the weather, the equipment is responsible for the success or failure of the endeavor). Your posts indicate an external locus of control. When you can have a good time, or a great time, regardless of where you are or what the conditions are, you are ready to go anywhere and it really won't matter where.
That said, I think you should enjoy where you are, especially since there is a decent amount of snow in the East.
I remember when my GF and I went to Schweitzer the first time, we met another couple, also from the Seattle area. They reported they keep coming back to Schweitzer every year for about a dozen years, after a dozen years or so of traveling to all sorts of destination resorts. They liked Schweitzer for the lack of crowds, easy to get around the mountain, lots of nice long groomed cruisers, easy to find off-piste areas of pretty much every degree of difficulty. Once they found a place that kept them happy, basically 5 hours from their home, they didn't feel the need to explore new resorts, looking for some elusive "best place."
The point is not that you should go to Schweitzer (not necessarily this year) but that you might find it completely unnecessary and ultimately unsatisfying to keep traveling around looking for Shangri-La, when you can have a pretty decent experience at any decent-sized mountain, provided you have the skills (and more importantly the mind-set) to enjoy the activity of snow sports.
I'm trying to recall in this thread or the longer one from last year (which seems to still be going this year as well) whether or not you actually ever took lessons. Honestly, I feel that your enjoyment of wherever you choose to go would be much better with more skills at your disposal (and thus more internal locus of control). I mostly ski at a 1125 acre area, and there's always challenge as well as comfort-zone-fun. Except this year, when it has rained a lot and the season may basically be over in a week or two. And even then I've had a blast teaching kids.
Hope this helps.