Sorry but I really find some of these comments somewhat pathetic. Ever tried TGR? Epic is a VERY civilized place as far as interbet forums go. There is no need to keep egging on the moderators to apply more stringent controls. A sterile forum will die a slow death, a vibrant multi-voice community will live. I don't really understand why someone who asks a stupid question should not be made aware of that in a (polite) form. The truth may hurt your feeling, but ultimately it's better for everyone. Unbiased perception of reality is presumably one of the hallmarks of an adult conversation. Epic should be neither kindergarten nor a nursing home. Please don't expect the moderation team deal with your insecurities.
I find that much of the negativity on this forum comes from some of the more senior members, who should know better. They seem to have so little patience for the enthusiastic, if clumsy questions of the newer members. They could easily ignore the threads but seem to find the opportunity to make a negative comment, or thread derail, irresistible. Has the forum content become so jaded to them that they have nothing better to do?
This forum has been a conundrum for me. I seem to collect tons of reputation points for sarcasm and quick one liners, but attract huge negativity and derailing tactics when I ask a serious question. I tend to lurk most of the time and choose not to post too much because of the deliberate negativity. The most infuriating thing is when people deliberately misrepresent what you have said. Although I look new, I have lurked here for several years and know all the major players.
Why do so many of the senior posters seem intent on making the newer members feel uncomfortable? The atmosphere reminds me of a private club that is forced to open it's doors but resents the new membership. I've been the victim of this and certainly didn't get any intervention from the moderators. Are new members fair game and the senior members protected in some way?
If I posted this anywhere else on the forum, or a as a new thread, I would be vilified and called a Troll. So I hope, in this thread, the question is taken with the sincerity with which it is asked.
Yikes, somebody got up on the wrong side of the bed this morning! I think MGA's observations are pretty much on the money, so to call his thought's on the matter "pathetic" seems a little unnecessarily harsh to me. That said, I agree that expecting otherwise is unrealistic, and Seg pointed out exactly why. Social groups have imposed some level of grief on newcomers since there have been social groups, be it clubs, fraternities, military units, workplaces, sports teams, and more recently, web forums. That ain't gonna change, and maybe it shouldn't. For better or ill, it's a factor in what helps social groups bond and ultimately contributes to making the newcomer feel like part of the team once he/she has run that gauntlet.
Epic is indeed pretty tame compared to other sites, but then again, it's apparently intended to be. If it wasn't, this discussion wouldn't even be taking place. In light of that, Epic obviously doesn't want to run off new members who may be more tender-hearted than the TGR crowd, but I seriously doubt the Mods want to be Nannies, either. I don't think most of us want them to be, since the community itself seems to be pretty good at policing unacceptable behavior...usually. Given the competing needs of allowing this particular social group to function in a way that is most natural to it as well as ensuring that it's a generally welcoming and mostly supportive place, I think the Epic Mods due a pretty good job, and in fact, generally err on the side of civility...those few times they err at all, that is.
Edited by Skierish - 5/13/14 at 6:33am