Thank you for all for all of the thoughtful replies.--very helpful..my take-away is don't worry so much about it. Which is actually very comforting. Thank you again.
We would be glad to show them around. We chose North Tahoe for the reasons he wants.
I will toss out Tahoe North Shore
Northstar / Squaw / Alpine / Homewood / Sugar Bowl / Mt. Rose
Mid week there are a lot of older individuals hitting everything
You will find tons of people to hang out with
Especially with Phil/Trekchik/Veteran plus a cast of other Epic Regulars on the prowl
Friends in no time fast
And cheap passes to lots of resorts
I have skied Snowbird and Alta are great ski areas. But they are a bit of a drive and one would have to live in Salt Lake, etc. Hence my recommendation for Park City. It is all inclusive housing close by and lots of amenities) and does offer very good skiing. And as I stated public transportation. Moreover, Snowbird, Alta, and other areas are close such as Solitude and Brighton.
You won't shut this crew up that easily.
Go where you want, we grays are everywhere.
This has probably already been mentioned and I forgot it in a CRAFT moment (Can't Remember A Frigin' Thing). At a new area jump into a free mountain tour if they are offered. Often run by a senior mountain host type who is just who you are looking for,or knows where to find who you are looking for. If this seems a waste of time, just kind of drift away and create a plan B.
Wolf Creek has a very active senior ski club. They are a great group of folks of all ability levels, and are a lot of fun to see around the mountain. Members are up there pretty much every day of the week, but Tuesday is their official ski day, and they have a reputation for filling the sack lunch lodge every Tuesday.
They also do a lot of summer activities as well.
My Girlfriend and I love Powder Mountain near Ogden, UT. We are seriously considering buying there in a few years.... want to wait and make sure the new owners don't wreck the joint. While skiing there last year we met several retired couples who spent a significant amount of time (6 weeks - the entire winter) there. They all had condos in Eden but Ogden is not too far and is a much larger community, plus there is regular and reasonably priced bus service. It is about an hour to SLC and Little Cottonwood Canyon as well.
Yellowstone Club. Definitely the Yellowstone Club.
Haha. I know. I was kidding...mostly. But hey, worth a shot just in case OP's loaded, as I really want a hook up over there. Hello, guest passes!
Something else to look into is season long programs through the ski school. Lots of areas have adult programs that meet every Saturday morning, such as Sugarbush's Bush pilots. Some are geared more towards parents of kids in seasonal programs but all ski a lot, give you a chance to meet/ski with other (semi)locals and not spend so much time in lift lines, while skiing with someone who knows the mountain.
Another possibility is if the areas you are interested in has an ambassador program. You can quickly meet lots of people, get benefits such as food or lesson discounts, not to mention the pass. For the most part the days resorts need you to work are days too busy to get much skiing in, and there's nothing like being scheduled to get your butt out on a day that looked bad from the breakfast table but turns out to be fantastic from the lifts. If this sounds good call your target areas NOW as returning volunteers take most available slots, having found what a good deal it is.
As a year round resident of Montpelier I'm partial to, and employed by, Sugarbush so I think the "Bad Liver Valley" is a great place. SB and MRG make a great combo and Kmart and Stowe are easy trips.