How about one of these?
The strength of this forum is from everyone wanting to do well and share. Everyone won't always agree and it would be a boring place if we did. As BB always says, "Question everything." (or words to that effect). If you are challenged, it isn't a bad thing. Last night when I finally got home from work, I read a few more posts in the thread that is now locked (and this morning I see I have a typo that will be there for all Eternity - "Life is good" not Live is good ) and some things start clicking in. In between all the bickering, were some enlightening posts, at least for me.
I feel confident in my thoughts on the subject as of last night, but would like some more clarification but I don't want to start another pi$$ing contest. At work when folks on my team get upset with other folks we work with, I ask them "How many people do you think drove to work today wanting to f@ck things up?" The answer is rhetorical. We agree that everyone wants to do a good job and based on the information and experiences they have, they are trying to do that. We continue on from that aspect instead of "He's an idiot that doesn't know how to....!"
I'm not really a group hug type of guy. Nor am I known for my people skills. At the root of me is an a$$. Everyone that knows me, knows that. I know that too and have learned to deal with it. Beer helps me keep the beast quiet. We need to focus on the conversation and ignore the noise. It's the simplest way to make the noise go away.