I LOVE Copper Mountain... It's beautiful and has something for everyone from big, open green runs to free cat/hike-to stuff. It has a very different vibe from Aspen or Vail.
The crowds at Copper depend on what terrain you are skiing. We have had very little trouble with getting on upper mountain or backside lifts and only encountered long lines at the Center Village base area, or maybe the first ride up on the Superbee, depending on the time of arrival.
Snow conditions as was said, can be anything.
Lodging... I only booked and stayed at the mountain once and did not have an issue with the beds. But my impression was that the units are owned by individuals, so they are not uniform in appearance. I bet if you phone the resort and tell them of your concerns regarding the bedding, etc, you will be OK> And if you don't like what you have when you get there, you can always ask them to move you to another unit.
Frisco is an alternative. We booked a lovely condo via VRBO at Timberline Cove that slept five-six. Timberline Cove is behind the rather unattractive newer commercial district of Frisco,near the highway, but it makes it very convenient for driving to Copper. And, this building overlooks the reservoir, so it is pretty. If you stay in Frisco, then you can ski Copper and do a day to two at some of the other Summit resort for fun, like Loveland or A-Basin.
If you choose to drive to Copper, the free parking lot and shuttle service is quick and easy. I prefer the Superbee area to the American base area. less of a zoo. the little restaurant/bar at the Superbee base had good food and was a nicer atmosphere than the cafeteria style options.
Camp Woodward... Only you and he can gauge if it's worth it. You have to factor in his age, ability and desire to do that kind of stuff vs price, and your desire (or lack thereof) to have a day without him.