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post #31 of 44

When my first was born in November a 2 yeas ago. That season my ski days that season were cut down by 1/3 and my wifes reduced by about 2/3 of what it had been. Once the child was old enough to get the pertussis vaccine we would trade off in the lodge. Focus on quality not quantity. Make sure you get your wife a powder day as much as possible. 

post #32 of 44
As you know, with a baby, you're going to give up many things that you used to do. That does not mean that you have to give up everything. If your wife is more passionate about things other than skiing, make sure that she is able to do those things so that she will be more willing to let you take off occasionally to ski. Planning will become significantly more important. If you're going to bring the baby to the resort, the amount of time to get ready and get there will greatly increase. The switch off option seems to work for many. If the baby will be in daycare while both of you work, the idea of putting the baby in a resort day care will probably be more acceptable - if you can swallow the cost. If you can manage the planning of skiing as a family with a baby, it will be much easier to ski as a family once the kid is ready to ski.

And next time, plan the delivery date better. wink.gif
post #33 of 44

 

Lange has come out with a boot attachment that may be worth looking into.

post #34 of 44

I think the trick to getting dad's to stay at home depends on the dad.  Some dads love spending time at home with their kids others either won't or won't for longer than an hour or two.   And yeah, if you are always going out skiing every Saturday and Sunday for 4-8 hours, your wife will become resentful, and that can be very unhealthy for your relationship.  Ideally both parents will want to take an active role in raising and spending time with their kids and family, but sadly that is not always the case in all families.

post #35 of 44
First baby- wife was so excited with the baby I got a lot of skiing in- but I was close by, SLC . I took over the kitchen, did the dishes and housework, acted as support. As long as all that stuff was done , I had a hall pass. Second kid, not so much. Did a lot more diaper changing than skiing. Started them on skis at two... The ratio of prep time to skiing was about an hour for every ten minutes on snow. It's since gotten better...
post #36 of 44
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Originally Posted by SKI-3PO View Post

Planning will become significantly more important. If you're going to bring the baby to the resort, the amount of time to get ready and get there will greatly increase. The switch off option seems to work for many. If the baby will be in daycare while both of you work, the idea of putting the baby in a resort day care will probably be more acceptable - if you can swallow the cost. If you can manage the planning of skiing as a family with a baby, it will be much easier to ski as a family once the kid is ready to ski.
 

 

Have a contingency for everything baby related and be prepared to compromise. We compromised on where we would ski based on the daycare, base facilities and kids ski school programme available for the first 4 or 5 years. We also chose to ski places where you could get good skiing not too far from the resort base so we could get back in a reasonable time if needed (and it will be needed).  Despite being happy in daycare at home, DS did not settle into daycare at the ski-field the first time we tried him at 11 months - we didn't get to the top of the first chair before the cell phone rang. Luckily the daycare was happy for us to use the daycare as a base and switch out. In fact, they suggested it and said that if he got comfortable there with us around he was more likely to settle in the future - which he did - short term compromise for long-term gain.

 

Always carry your cell phone and have the volume switched up so that you can hear it and check in with your wife if you are switching out - I probably wouldn't have rung DH if things weren't going well, but he was able to tell pretty quickly (crying babies are not quiet) if things were going to custard.

 

As others have said there is a step change around 5 and by 7 or 8 they will keep up on almost anything - but again this depends on the kid.

 

Invest in good quality outdoor clothing, including footwear for baby - if it isn't good enough quality for you it isn't good enough for your baby - yes they grow like weeds but cold and/or wet kids hate skiing.

 

If your wife is due January, depending on how far you are from where you ski you might be better to get some early season skiing in. But check with your wife about her mother's delivery record - I was early and fast according to my parents and DS was the same 3 weeks early and 3 hours from start to finish, so think carefully about taking off before the due date.

post #37 of 44

Your wife will remember for the rest of your married lives how you acted during the first year of your baby's life.  As a wife, I speak from experience.

 

Having a baby is a pivotal event for the two of you.  Everything changes when that baby is born.  All plans made now need to be revised by the two of you talking together after the first week with the baby.  No matter what plans you might make now, she may change her mind once she encounters the reality of baby care.  So may you.  

 

So plan on re-planning together during the first week or two and she has enough time and energy to think.  It might take longer than two weeks for her to get her head on straight, if the baby doesn't sleep well.  If that's the case, don't go off and have fun, leaving her home sleep deprived and emotionally ragged with a newborn.  Stay home, offer support, give her breaks from baby care, and wait for the right moment to bring up skiing knowing that what you say and do will never be forgotten.   

post #38 of 44

^^^^ Should be a sticky.

post #39 of 44
Thread Starter 

wow! thanks for all the feedback! really appreciate it.

wife doesnt ski, so i think this season will consist of dec. turns and whatever I can get after that...may do a beer race league on a weeknight, and take the feeding shift once I get home so that i can feed my ski appetite.

post #40 of 44
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Originally Posted by DSloan View Post

Soooooo, how hard is it to get first-time dads to stay home with the kiddo while mom goes skiing? biggrin.gif

Well, mom gets to tote em around for 40 weeks while you prepare to miss a day! Just remember that you are not 'babysitting' if the child is yours!

Seriously, my wife & I got in lesser, but good skiing last season in year 1!!! It does happen. The one mistake we made was thinking we would connect w everyone else...they have their own kids!!

Just swap off!
post #41 of 44

^^^Me thinks he don'ts knows what "D" stands for mommy!

post #42 of 44
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^^^Me thinks he don'ts knows what "D" stands for mommy!

 

What does the D stand for?

post #43 of 44
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What does the D stand for?


I'm sure she'll tell you since you asked nicelywink.gif  She finished toting one around for 40 months this summerspit.gif

post #44 of 44

Unless you will have live in help, or a place near the hill, I would recommend no expectations.

 

My wife and I met skiing, got married in Stowe on St Patties Day '07 (considered one of the best storms ever...skied 3 feet of pow on my wedding day, but I digress).  We had out daughter in October a of '09.  Her parents decided their best chance to see lots of their granddaughter was to buy a condo in the mountains for us all to visit.  So, we had a free place to stay 5 minutes from the mountain, with built in help/babysitting.  I managed to get 16 days that season (less than half what I was used to) and consider that a big success.  We have our second on the way in January and I expect this to be a similar season, maybe a few more days because my daughter is starting to get on the hill and we want to encourage that.  So at least right now my wife wants me to take our daughter skiing even when she can't come...of course we'll be with her parents so she will have help.

 

The reality is that unless you live in ski country or you have a situation where you have help (family, friends, nanny/aupair, etc.) it is very difficult to do much of anything when you have a newborn.  They need to eat every 2-3 hours or so, and be changed just as much.  Add in plenty of spit-up to clean up from burping them after feedings and you're lucky if you can be considered a functioning human being for the first few months.  Also, if you have more than a 30 minute commute each way, remember to factor that in.  It's a lot to deal with.  Don't count on any days on the snow, take advantage of what you can get, and enjoy your child.  The time will go quickly, mostly because you're pretty much sleepwalking through it, and you'll be back out there next year, and not long after that you'll be sharing your love for skiing, the mountains, and everything else with your child and enjoying it in a way that you never have.

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