When you revealed that you didn't ski Monarch because it was dumping and windy, it said a lot -- and you should know that many who are posting actually like those conditions (including me).
Maybe you skip monarch, since cat skiing will definitely not be groomed! (Who knows though, once once you have ventured out off the manicured piste at Wolf Creek and onto the soft deeper snow, you won't be looking for steep groomers so much any more!) That old hotel is indeed tired, but you could stay in Salida. The Super 8 is (still?) owned by a hotelier who managed one of the fancier places in Santa Fe and it's cheap.
Taos is a wonderful place. It has some good, steep groomed runs, but their grooming is not the best. (Santa Fe has better grooming than Taos.) Since you won't be hiking the ridge, the whole coverage/rock issue probably won't affect you.
Wolf Creek is much better than Angel Fire unless you are into the park and pipe. (AF is the only mountain that I actually turned my lift ticket back in!) I have not skied Red River, but have visited there in the summer and it does seem like they may have some steeper runs that could keep you busy for a day, but do you really want to spend so many ski days driving?? Purgatory is not one of my favorite mountains and it is exacly as described, but folks i know who like groomers do like it, so it might be worth it for you.
CB and T-ride will be your best bets for the kind of skiing I'm guessing you are looking for.
It is definitely worth staying in T-ride as it is one of the most beautiful ski areas in the lower 48 IMHO. the drive from Ridgeway in winter can be a pain, so stay in the town itself. there is no advantage to staying in Mountain Village since the gondola goes right from the town to the ski area; super convenient and the little city is so cool.
CB is different. The town is really cool too, but it is a more of a schlepp to the lifts and you might want to stay at the mountain village there and take the bus downtown for entertainment.
The nice thing about this itinerary is that (with the possible exception of T-Ride and CB) the places you are going to are very, very different from each other.