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Speaking of Sig. others, What's your better halfs limitations put on your skiing life/quiver?

post #1 of 32
12/8/11 at 10:37am
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I just found out my wife's limit on my quiver.  Tried to buy a pair of Spatulas yesterday, which would have put me at 5 pairs of skis. 

181 GS Rossis

178 Dynastar Legend 8000's

181 Nomad SFT's from Icelantic

186 Lhasa Pow

 

would have been the Spats for my all out pow ski for my 5th pair, thought I had dibs, but didn't work out that way.  When I told my wife I bought them, she said, "that's fine, you just have to sell one of the others.  There's no way you need 5 pairs of skis."  Hmmm, didn't think I'd hit her limit this quickly.  I don't even have a skinnyish, short ski yet.  No room for the Kastle MX 78 now?  Boooooo!  Wouldn't you think a bump ski and an all out pow ski are still justifiable?

I guess, if I had to, I could get rid of the GS skis and the nomad, pick up the MX 78, and still have room for Spats, or possibly a pair of Praxis powderboards.

 

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post #2 of 32
12/8/11 at 10:44am

did you see the mx 78's for sale in the marketplace?  Yeah, i hear ya, my fat pow skis are in hiding as i know they will cause sublimation beyond the boiling point immediately...had to do some fast talking when she first saw the bona-fides but she had that one coming!

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post #3 of 32
12/8/11 at 11:43am

we had a baby this year so my wife doesn't want me to go skiing EVERY weekend. it's reasonable. she can't get anything done when at home w/ the baby alone. 4 day vacation this weekend, hope i can get out 1 full day and 2 half days.  wife is taking her first lesson at loveland and will probably go back for 2nd lesson, so i'm praying all go's well.  probably good that the snow conditions aren't amazing.

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post #4 of 32
12/8/11 at 11:55am
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Originally Posted by mcdave69 View Post

did you see the mx 78's for sale in the marketplace?  Yeah, i hear ya, my fat pow skis are in hiding as i know they will cause sublimation beyond the boiling point immediately...had to do some fast talking when she first saw the bona-fides but she had that one coming!



I did not.  You will be hearing from my wife.  hopmad.gif

 

An all out pow ski is taking precedence as I have a T-Ride trip with perhaps a side of Silverton in February.  I am, however, going to go take a peek at those now.

 

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post #5 of 32
12/8/11 at 12:17pm

None whatsoever.

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post #6 of 32
12/8/11 at 12:32pm
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Originally Posted by iWill View Post

None whatsoever.



You don't even have to put demo bindings on everything so she can ski all your skis?

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post #7 of 32
12/8/11 at 9:38pm

remember, 1 pair skis = 2 pairs shoes  biggrin.gif

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post #8 of 32
12/8/11 at 10:59pm

Dude, mixing up quiver, wife and a skinnier model in the same thread is a recipe for disaster.  Wear a helmet!

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post #9 of 32
12/8/11 at 11:09pm

I don't even have a SO and yet I'm hiding my skis. From my friends who also ski. My non skiing friends are not nagging about how many pairs of skis I have. Weird.

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post #10 of 32
12/8/11 at 11:22pm

No limits. Just have to accept her love of cats......

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post #11 of 32
12/8/11 at 11:35pm
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Originally Posted by iWill View Post

None whatsoever.

This.

Actually it's not true - whatever I buy, she needs to have the womens equivalent!
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post #12 of 32
12/9/11 at 6:50am

"What's your better halfs limitations put on your skiing life/quiver?"

 

 

 

 

Do they get a vote?  confused.gif

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post #13 of 32
12/9/11 at 7:16am
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Originally Posted by incognito View Post

Dude, mixing up quiver, wife and a skinnier model in the same thread is a recipe for disaster.  Wear a helmet!



 I wish my wife came in a skinnier model.  rolleyes.gif

 

As for limiting the quiver, I'm usually operating in stealth mode.  By the time she knows about a new pair, I already own them.  Tis far easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.

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post #14 of 32
12/9/11 at 7:33am

I just added a 4th pair to my quiver, a pair of Rossi Exp. 98's that will join my AC30's, Blizzard SLR IQ and my Volkle Racetiger RC's.  She didn't wince, as I have an unsigned contract with her that I can spend all of the money I make at the ski shop on ski gear.  Now if I can just get a few more hours per week I can buy that pair of.....

 

Rick G

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post #15 of 32
12/9/11 at 8:00am

Don't ask, don't tell.

 

While my skis are my business, the only thing my wife knows is when her aunt in SLC calls, and says - "oh, another big package arrived today, guess it's for your husband" it means something else has arrived for that quiver. The in-laws in SLC have also been known to get bindings mounted for me at levelnine before I show up for a trip - Good folks!

 

The ones she sees coming and going in the garage are usually making the trip to join their colleagues in the Whistler quiver, and the most recent ObSETHed's and Access' are sitting behind me now in their bag in a hotel room in NYC, waiting for the plane ride on Sunday. Her comment - "wow, that bag looks heavy".

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post #16 of 32
12/9/11 at 8:51am

My quiver is limited to one....not one pair - one ski.  I put it on one foot, ski for a while holding the other foot up in the air.  When I get tired, I switch.  The main problem is that my underwear limits my ability to keep the non-ski foot up in the air for very long, or perhaps it is that my boots are not correctly adjusted to account for the orbit of pluto...I can't tell which.wink.gif

 

 

/In reality she doesn't complain much, but there is some of the "New skis for you=new couch for me".  And somehow the equal sign tends to tilt in her favor.

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post #17 of 32
12/9/11 at 9:03am

4 people in a 2 bedroom house is what puts the biggest limit on hobby gear, nonono2.gifnot much space.  I only have room for 10-12 pairs of skisrolleyes.gif standing and raftered out in our semi climate controlled walled in porch/music studio/dressing room.  Cost isn't an issue.  I'm pretty good at finding suitable used or new old stock gear at really affordable prices, mount my own bindings, tune ect..

 

Kids' activities and sports are doing a pretty good job of keeping me home on weekends way more than what mom needs/wants. 

 

All is a minor and temporary setback.  I skied plenty growing up and before family life.  And, I'll probably get in plenty more when the nest empties. 

 

Regardless, I'd give up skiing entirely forever if that was the only way to stay married-ever had to choose. But, I wouldn't have married anyone that believed skiing or any other hobby in moderation was a threat to any relationship and she wouldn't have either.  If she or I got a killer job in Hawaii that covered all our expenses and enabled the family to do everything except ski I could walk away from the sport for another 10 years or so no problem.  My surfing would certainly get a lot better!

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post #18 of 32
12/9/11 at 9:06am

My wife skis. She understands.

 

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We each got a new pair last season.

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post #19 of 32
12/14/11 at 12:10pm

Struck a bargain with the child bride a few years ago.  I only get new toys when I get rid of old toys.  Keeps the inventory at a static level.

 

Don't have to sell 'em - gave some Atomic GS skis to my son-in-law - just have to keep the numbers constant.

 

I did acquire a 178cm Sigi Grabner GS snowboard so I'm getting rid of a 154 cm Hot Shine slalom board. 

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post #20 of 32
12/14/11 at 12:52pm

My wife has just decided that she's going to get back into skiing or riding, so I'm hoping this will expand my own gear acquisition limits considerably.  biggrin.gif

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post #21 of 32
12/14/11 at 1:03pm

I have 3 sets of skis, but am selling the cheapest pair.  Couple this with snowboarding gear purchases I already made for my wife.....and she pretty much lets me get what I want.  Vacuum boots, Kjus jacket, Contour POV camera.  Just bought her a new jacket too, so that means more gear brownie points for me, WOOT!

 

And for the record, I wouldn't call that bribery.  I call it selective motivation. wink.gif

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post #22 of 32
12/14/11 at 1:13pm
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Originally Posted by Gunnerbob View Post

I have 3 sets of skis, but am selling the cheapest pair.  Couple this with snowboarding gear purchases I already made for my wife.....and she pretty much lets me get what I want.  Vacuum boots, Kjus jacket, Contour POV camera.  Just bought her a new jacket too, so that means more gear brownie points for me, WOOT!

 

And for the record, I wouldn't call that bribery.  I call it selective motivation. wink.gif



i like it. My wife gets mad when i go over the 4 pairs of ski quota. I was up to 7 at one point and she was about to blow a gasket. Back down to 4 and she is much happier. Perhaps when we have more space it won't such a problem.

 

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post #23 of 32
12/14/11 at 6:18pm

We have an agreement....  When I buy ski gear, clothing, whatever...  I better buy two.  Last spring I got REALLY smart.  I got her some 185 Cochise's and I got some 186 Bodacious'.  Sometimes I'll squeak out one more trip out west than she gets.  I'll take both of them!

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post #24 of 32
12/15/11 at 4:36pm

Lucky the wife and I always kept our pay checks in seperate accounts.  I buy what I want and the same goes for her.

Married 30 years with no fights over cash or what we bought.

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post #25 of 32
12/15/11 at 4:40pm
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Originally Posted by patmoore View Post

Struck a bargain with the child bride a few years ago.  I only get new toys when I get rid of old toys.  Keeps the inventory at a static level.

 

Don't have to sell 'em - gave some Atomic GS skis to my son-in-law - just have to keep the numbers constant.

 

I did acquire a 178cm Sigi Grabner GS snowboard so I'm getting rid of a 154 cm Hot Shine slalom board. 


I thought you had a whole retail store to hide such treasures within..

 

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post #26 of 32
12/15/11 at 7:53pm

 

I have a friend who's having a hard time both being in a relationship AND having any personal time whatsoever. My friend's husband gets bitter, catty and resentful whenever my friend goes on ski day trips. We're not talking weeklong trips - we're talking skiing once a week, sometimes leaving on a Friday evening and returning Saturday afternoon. When my friend does go for a ski day, or discusses it with his partner, the partner airs one of two different sets of grievances:  
 
1. The partner trots out tales of being "left alone with the kids" while my friend's out having "the time of his life". (This one gets broadcast to their mutual friends via facebook.)
2. The partner gets into an argument because they have "so many things to do". 
 
I often suggest to my friend that he provide equal opportunities to his partner to go out and do fun things - whether that's a night out with his friends, taking a cooking class, join a club, or even just chilling out with a book while my friend takes care of the kids. My friend's had this discussion with the husband, but the husband states that he literally doesn't want to do so - he has no interest in going out. Oh, they have another caregiver during weekdays, so nobody's stuck in kidland 24/7. I actually think he wants to be a martyr because he refuses all opportunity to do his own fun stuff.
 
For the second set of grievances, it comes off as a bit tired to me: they have a home, and have stuff to do on it. But realistically, there's always going to be a laundry list of stuff to do on a house. Their to-do list includes things like putting up a backsplash, or potting plants, or sorting out tools in a garage, which can be done on a weeknight rather than during precious weekend time. 
 
I feel bad for my friend. But there's not much I can do, other than listen and offer some suggestions on how to keep their dialogue open. I think it'd be better if they parted ways, to be honest--though they had kids a few years back which really borked up the exit plan. It's like skiing is the only opportunity for my friend to regain his sanity from his shrew of a husband... and the husband's denying him even that.
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post #27 of 32
12/16/11 at 12:06pm
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Originally Posted by liv2 ski View Post

Lucky the wife and I always kept our pay checks in seperate accounts.  I buy what I want and the same goes for her.

Married 30 years with no fights over cash or what we bought.



My wife and I do the same thing.  It works great, but it's more of the fact that my skis are taking up almost all of the closet space at the ski house.

 

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post #28 of 32
12/16/11 at 1:54pm
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Originally Posted by crgildart View Post


I thought you had a whole retail store to hide such treasures within..

 



Now there's a thought.......

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post #29 of 32
12/16/11 at 4:11pm

Both my husband and I have two quivers.  I have mentioned the possibility of a third quiver for racing and his only caveat is the cost.  So maybe this season if I start getting gold it might change the chances of a third quiver for me.  

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post #30 of 32
12/16/11 at 5:52pm

I've never have had any limits put on anything I do but then I also have never asked nor ever felt it was needed. I don't question my wife's choices and she doesn't question mine. Initially after just two weeks of marrriage I think she was a bit surprised when I told her I was leaving that weekend for a weeks ski trip with the guys but only surprised. We have of course done the family ski holidays,mixed group,and the just the two of us ski holidays, but when it comes to what ever equipment I think I need or when/where/and with who I ski that is my choice. And the getaways she takes are also her choice. Seems to have worked well for over 25 years.. 

l.  

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