Wow this topic really hits home.
As a hopeless ski addict, I somehow married someone who never did and never will ski. But I'm as happy as could be. It's just as important for me to respect that she doesn't like 1. cold 2. speed and 3. gear, as it is for her to respect that I can't live without those things. It annoys us to no end when our skier friends continue to criticize her for not giving it a try. We have come to an understanding and we're both happy thank you very much. Even I get that there are more important things than skiing (actually just three: health, spouse, and kids). If you can respect eachother's needs and accept that time away can be healthy, then it can work well.
The 1st few years were a little rough, but when we left NYC for New England, day skiing became possible. I.e. no need to spend the whole weekend away. The other saving grace was my annual guy trip: 5 days in Utah every year goes a long way. She knew this was a pre-existing condition before we got married, and wouldn't dare interfere.
The big breakthrough was having kids. Since they were 3 yrs old we've been at the mountain all day Saturday + Sunday, giving her a little vacation. (She does most of the weekday parenting.) She also sees how much the kids love it, how it bonds them to dad, how it gets them outdoors in winter, gives them a sense of accomplishment etc... The miracle is that she now promotes skiing in our family. She's even agreed to an annual week out west. She snowshoes, spas, shops etc... Everyone's happy.
It does help that I live near skiing and have a job that allows enough vacation and random weekdays to ski alot, and pays enough to afford it. Otherwise can't see how I'd get 35 days a year with a non-skiing spouse.
So, it takes a lot of dedication, but there's a way to do this and keep both parties happy.