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Some life advice I guess

post #1 of 7
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Hey everyone, I'm new on the forum, but not really to skiing. 

I'm originally from Colorado (Salida to be exact) and am fortune enough to have grown up in the Rockies and skied Monarch and rafted from a very young age. Two years ago I moved out east to CT for boarding school and am just kind of coming to terms with missing the mountains, skiing, and being out side in a way that the east coast kind of can't offer it seems, this is all due to the fact that I'm now selecting colleges and what not so I'm thinking about where I'm willing to commit another four years of my life. That being said, I've also been thinking about priorities and such things. I'm a musician (with 23 hours of band rehearsal a week), a student (obviously 8 hours of classes a day, 6 days a week), and row crew. 

So now that there's some background on me out there here's where I need help: I'm having some issues deciding on what to do. I've been dreading rowing practices and races in a way at worst and have been indifferent to it at best. My coach is my advisor (parent away from home, kind of) and I'm strongly considering stopping rowing because I'm simply not enjoying it. I'm not considering doing it in college and by this point I'm trying to weed through the amount of stress it causes. 

I guess what I'm looking for is some feedback on what your position/experience on things like this is. Every time I've fallen back on the ski community I've always gotten some great advice and conversation so I'm throwing this one out here because of that, hope no one minds too terribly. 


Thanks so much,


post #2 of 7

I didn't see any sort of question in there.


If you really just want to move to the mountains and go skiing then go do that -- and go to school when you are ready to focus on it. Or take a few classes at community college in the mountains then transfer to a 4 year school after a year or two. University is  big commitment and expense.






post #3 of 7

Life is too short to live without passion at such a young age. That said, regarding crew, are you good enough at this to potentially get scholarship money? If so, it's a harder quesiton. If not, leave it and make a place on the team for someone whose passion is rowing. It is not really fair to your team or coach to take a slot when your heart isn't in it. Your coach will still like you if you are honest with him/her.


Choosing where to go to college has to factor in more than skiing and an outdoor life, but those things, since they seem to be really important to you, ought to be a part of your decision. As you are seeing, how you live your life day-to-day is very important, not just where you go to school but in what you choose as your life's work.


Good luck!

post #4 of 7

When a student tries-out for a team, makes the team, and starts practicing and competing with the team I think they should finish out the current season before quitting the team.  It's a lesson in commitment and responsibility that you'll need many times in life.  Feel free to get out when the season is over and move on to other meaningful pursuits.

4/6/11, Wash DC, on my bike commute to work:


post #5 of 7
Thread Starter 

Thanks for the feedback! 

Don't worry, I wasn't considering quiting this year, I love the girls on my team too much to do that not to mention if I've earned a spot and gone to pre-season already I'm going to stick it out and see what I can do to help our team get a team championship at NEIRA's this year. 

As for college I guess I'll just play it by ear and go off the fact that I know I want to be somewhere beautiful and just see where that takes me. 

post #6 of 7

This country's incredible, one can learn anything they want.....but you know, it's You that has to want to know something well enough to develop a love for it.

Hey, one has to make somekind of income...but try to stay mentally open to new things and gauge success by what you enjoy learning, not by how many units of time you've spent to accomplish something...or you spend practicing/rehearsing.    You've seen the outdoor garden of the NE by what seems like your own mind...what you think it is like...........CT? ...Pleeez;-) need to check out northern NewEngland before a rush to judgement about the whole NE.   It won't supplant CO but at least take a look at the areas where land, water, and wildlife has yet to be "developed".

Instead of judging activities by the amount of time you've given them, if you don't want to get any deeper in learning more about what you're looking for...don't waste the time, it's time to move on.   Likewise, if you're looking for any type of comparison to your CO...CT isn't the place.   A 10hr drive...from northern Maine can get you down into Boston or Cambridge....pretty unique.  Not my favorite "cup of tea" either..but it's unique, along with the Web.   Hope the rambling hasn't been too much, the 4wd is fixed, the new tires for the woods are on the way and the canoe hasn't seen the water for almost a month now.   $.01


Edited by HaveSkisWillClimb - 6/19/11 at 5:40pm
post #7 of 7
It really depends on what "college" means to you and your family, and how desperately you need to live in the mountains as opposed to having reasonable access to them. You're not going to find Ivy League in the Rockies or Intermountain West--or the Northwest--but there are some decent schools within striking distance of great skiing, which would mean you could get an education, ski regularly during the season, and have access to great wilderness, climbing, and biking the rest of the year. If your folks are amenable, it's not unheard of to take a year or two to live a little before college, but that can be dangerous.

Of course you could do what I did, finish college, and then move to the place of your dreams (in my case that was SE Utah) for several years before going to grad school (law school for me) and then settling into a job. There's a big if, though--your family might not like that. I'd had a falling out with mine halfway through college, dropped out, and switched schools to finish up on my own dime, so I had a lot more leeway than someone who's (very sensibly) having their parents pay for school (and fortunately my parents and I reconciled before I left grad school). I also have a lot more deb. But I was always highly motivated to finish up and do well, whether it was in my starving-public-servant-outdoor-professional life or my underpaid-public-interest-lawyer life, so I feel good about the chances I've taken.

Life is uncertain; you makes your bets, you takes your chances, and then you make the most out of what you've got.

I have little specific advice about team competitive sports because I was a hopeless nerd and couch potato through high school and my 'sports' are all geared towards desert and mountain adventures of one sort or another. Many require serious dependency on others (mountaineering, climbing, rafting). But I can say with some certainty that the best sport is the one you enjoy. Some people stay in a team sport because they love the people or the team dynamic, even if they don't love the sport, but if it's just making you miserable I'd suggest coming clean with your coach and asking him for advice on what to do. It sounds like you're coming on your last year of high school, which could make it hard to start on a new sport, but you'll never know unless you ask.
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