“i don't think im doing anything that feels right so i dont know what im trying to feel.”
The idea of focusing on feelings or sensations is one of the keys to accelerating your learning. The important part is that you connect what you are feeling (whatever that is) with what is actually happening with your skis. Understand that what you are feeling is a very personal experience. What I may feel when my skis are carving might be very different from what you feel when your skis are carving. What is common though is when I feel what I feel, and when you feel what you feel, both our skis are carving. So, just focus on what the skis are doing when you feel whatever you are feeling.
At first it doesn’t matter if what is happening is what you want to happen. What’s important is that you have what is called a “concrete experience,” that is, making the connection between what you are feeling with what is actually happening with your skis. Without that connection, there is no starting point for making a change. If you can’t feel what’s happening to begin with, how can you make something else happen?
Once you can feel what is happening, you will be surprised how much easier it becomes to make what you want to happen actually happen. Here is where a good coach can really help in getting you to understand what you might want the ski to do in different situations. I am always amazed at how many skiers don’t really have an idea of what they want their skis to do. When I ask, “What were you trying to do there?” the answer is often something like: “I was trying to extend more at the beginning of the turn.” When I get more specific and ask, “What were you trying to get your skis to do?” the answer is very often a blank stare. Having a clear image of what you want your skis to do, (i.e. what path you want them to take - do you want them to skid or carve, etc.) is fundamental to great skiing. A great way to figure out what you might want your skis to do is to follow a really good skier and try to make your skis do exactly what their skis are doing. Once you connect your sensations with what your skis are doing, you can then repeat the experience whenever you feel it’s appropriate or desirable.